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Getting to Know Me
“They don’t know me at all” , I’ve heard this so many times.

We all need to be known and acknowledge, it is a way of validating who we are, but many times others don’t get to know the real us to begin with. Thinking about this fact I began to think the reasons why this happens and realized that whenever I fail to put effort in getting to know someone, they also fail to know me. It is our interest for other individuals that put us at ease to reveal who we truly are and it shows with more than words, the true essence of our spirit. When we open ourselves to receive someone they also tend to open up to give in response, and in that interchange that we get to know each other.

When dealing with people who had drama or bad experiences in life we need to be careful not to be righteous and judgemental, the person will completely close the line of communications if we do. Fear of yet another rejection or disregard is their defense mechanism in order to survive. By looking at their strengths and not their weakness we can help them rise above our expectations, but it really shouldn’t be about what we want FROM them but what we want FOR them. I can tell you by experience that whenever I think of them and not me I get so much more in return; physically, mentally and spiritually.

So here is the concept; if you want people to know you, take the time to get to know them. Trust is what open ourselves to another. We can’t gain trust if we don’t learn how to embrace someone else first.

Posted by Sober on 2008-04-23 08:47:49 | Rating: | Views: 108


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Posted by
BootLady
on 2008-04-23 09:19:25
 
Wow! You are wise beyond your years! Excellent post - this one should be "required reading!"
 
 

Posted by
tonyrayhutchison
on 2008-04-23 09:29:57
 
it is a great post! so... enlightened.
 
 

Posted by
Faith
on 2008-04-23 12:14:47
 
What if the person doesn't want you to get to know them. What if everytime you think you are getting close they completely shut down and turn into someone else?
 
 

Posted by
missmarie
on 2008-04-23 12:25:19
 
You do have a wise head on those young shoulders honey, very well said xx
 
 

Posted by
erica3
on 2008-04-23 14:29:16
 
very well said indeed! i couldn't agree more with this post. :)
 
 

Posted by
beckyliwen
on 2008-04-23 22:55:32
 
i like the last two sentences~
 
 

Posted by
eeerm
on 2008-04-24 05:30:44
 
Sounds like I should read more of your stuff.
Nice post love :)
 
 

Posted by
Sober
on 2008-04-24 08:09:14
 
Faith~
If the person shut down on you it is because he/she doesn’t trust you enough to let you in. Try not to be judgmental and point out faults, concentrate instead in his/her qualities and see what happens. Another thing, don’t try to change the essence of who they are, is not healthy.
 
 

Posted by
roe
on 2008-04-24 23:18:24
 
those are some pretty sobering thoughts...thanks
 
 

Posted by
Faith
on 2008-06-24 17:05:25
 
The person I have tried to get close to is my grandma. It's not your typical situation. I made some comments on this blog in April. You know how grandparents are, old and set in their ways. She thinks she is the lone ranger or something. She's very hard to get along with. Thx for your advice though. Sorry I'm so late in answering.
 
 


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