Posted by
expectingtofly
on 2008-02-10 19:31:22 |
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| My advice is your advice that you gave to me |
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Posted by
expectingtofly
on 2008-02-10 19:34:45 |
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| Leave his butt in the dirt, you deserve better!! |
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Posted by
brainstormer
on 2008-02-10 20:43:19 |
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And, my advice is the advice this last person got from you to give to you...or something like that:P Heh.
No, seriously...first of all I wonder what a non-spring chicken like yourself really is:P Second, I have been in a similar situation where I was the one being given a list of expectations only days into knowing the person--but this was an online thing and we never dated. Similarly, it proved to be too much too soon, and I--a sagittarius, mind you--backed off asking for space. Well, that didn't go well at all. However, despite all the bumps in the road, we come back together when we can to chat. |
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Posted by
keepdreaming
on 2008-02-10 23:39:16 |
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Oh Sweetie...please tell this guy if he ever contacts you that YOU have a list, and on the top of it, is RESPECT! You will not ANSWER to any list. Relationships are on equal ground. You make love because you both feel you want eachother, not because you are required to. For goodness sake, you are a woman with love and respect for yourself, and it doesn't matter what age "chick" you are, you deserve that respect. DO NOT EVER settle for anything less than that...if you do Sweetheart you, you will be trapped in a mess that will be difficult and heartbreaking for you. Hold you head up, and be proud of yourself.
God Bless you, I'm with you in thought! |
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Posted by
pitapie50
on 2008-02-11 07:59:47 |
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| He handed you a list?Im sorry but thats funny.How could you take him seriously after that?Save yourself some much needed energy dont waste time worrying about him or his list.Im sure he's going to end up eating his list.That or he could use it for toilet paper.Im betting on the toilet paper. |
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Posted by
whiteknight
on 2008-02-11 09:42:38 |
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| This guy may have been kidding, any chance of that and that he took your reaction as a sign of no sense of humor? Again, alot is missed in that you were the only one there, we don't know how he presented it,,,if he was serious he is GONE |
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Posted by
secondplace
on 2008-02-11 18:19:28 |
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| my two cents...I think his list might not really have been demands - but more like what he wants in a woman. In which case is a good thing. He let you know not because he wanted you to marry him tomorrow, but because he was upfront to let you know before things got "too serious" then you could decide for yourself. I only say this because I have a list (not literally) of things I want in a man and I don't really date guys who won't fit the bill. If he's worth it you'll know and he will be back. 3-4 times a week isn't bad and he didn't specify mon, wed, fri...he just said 3-4 times. sun mon tues...fri night, sat morn, wed night. WHO CARES? |
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Posted by
brainstormer
on 2008-02-14 00:17:09 |
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| I should like to add that in the case of a guy who is very nervous about approaching women, he might use letters or--in this case--a list to convey his feelings. It would be harsh to just dismiss such a thing and further hurt their sensitive feelings...hence why they don't stop using the notes. But, if the list did turn out to be a list of demands with no room to budge, I say the ball would be in your court to counter the demands or dismiss them completely saying "sorry. can't do all that. find someone else." |
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Posted by
ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-02-15 00:18:00 |
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Everyone is different. I'm a free spirit ... lists, demands and rigid schedules don't work for me.
"When people show you who they are .... believe them."
Maya Angelou.
Consider yourself lucky that he revealed himself, to you, after 46 days rather than 365 days. Just because your not a spring chicken doesn't mean you have to settle. I'd rather be alone than miserable with someone else. Peace. |
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