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Does it ever feel like when you’re young being in a serious relationship is pointless? Maybe in your early teens that isn’t so much so because you’re starting to experiment with what it’s like to really care about someone but once you reach 19, early twenties, it feels so futile to me. Guys are only looking to get laid or they just want to party and not be tied down (at least in my experience). And even if you do find a guy that isn’t one of the above mentioned, it still seems irrelevant, you’ll eventually break up. Wow, do I sound pessimistic or what? But it’s the truth. You get yourself really involved with a guy at an early age, fall in love, and it always comes to an end. Unless, of course, you get married and the odds of that marriage ending in divorce are strongly on your side.
I think there should be a required course in high school or college, Marriage 101. I’m in awe of couples lasting 50+ years and I’ll be looking forward to seeing how long newer generations can last. Sorry, I know I’m a downer when it comes to this subject but what do you expect from a girl who’s been disappointed one too many times?
any thoughts?
-Hopeless
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Posted by Simply_Smile on 2008-07-18 16:02:28 | Rating: | Views: 187
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OMG... I totally agree with you. In fact, I have taken this whole confused on love thing to another level. Read some of my posts and you'll see what I mean. Personally, I am starting to think the whole concept of marriage in general is stupid. So, whats the point of relationships at all? I feel so hopeless too.
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Posted by emilysbs
on 2008-07-18 16:12:02
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Having a class at school would make no difference due to the fact that as we get older things change. Your spouse hits a mid life crisis and cheats because everything changed. Most couples that can go fifty + years together really don't act happy at all. (at least the ones I've seen) Marriage is tempary serial manogomy that will end when one spouse gives up sharing a life to be in control.
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Posted by theotherjim
on 2008-07-18 16:27:05
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I have never been in one, and I just graduated from high school. In general, I do think that relationships in our teen years are not necessary, but me not being in one and observing others have really showed me what Not to do in the future. But I guess that it all becomes irrelevant becuae I will be older and there will be different factors to the relationship, nothing like 'I couldn't see you because I had tons of homework' excuses. But don't worry...try this: if you are often searching for someone or are going on many dates, exit from the dating scene just for a while...maybe the right man will come to you. At least that's what some people have tried and it has worked for them. I hope you fine that someone special...but cheer up, it's all good.
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Posted by confuscious101
on 2008-07-18 16:53:22
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Thanks for the feed back guys I appreciate it.
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Posted by Simply_Smile
on 2008-07-18 18:52:29
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Hey girl been through that and done that and now I am thirty three and very happy with my husband. You are correct but do know that when you give up that's when the right man will come along My husband and I have been together for eight years now and we get along. I never thought I would find that but I did and you will too. PS Be careful about men in a bar. They are mostly out for one thing.
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Posted by lanabell
on 2008-07-19 01:10:32
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Hello, you do have some great points here, and since I married my teenage love, and am now divorced I have to agree with you.
But in saying that my best friend also married her teenage sweetheart and they are still happily married.
So it really does depend on the people involved... Oh also I think we need to date when we are young to figure out who/what we live and to learn how to deal with pain and joy :)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-07-19 03:20:36
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I totally agree with you. are you interested in luxury as I am?
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Posted by eylcecooper
on 2008-07-19 05:40:39
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:)
you know what, yeah it seems futile. does it stop you from wanting that perfect relationship though? people say that fear of a relationship going bad keeps us from committing. that is the most redundant point ever. wear your heart on your sleeve. yeah you'll get hurt plenty of times, but when you find the guy you were looking for all this while, you'll be glad you didn't waste time playing the waiting game...
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Posted by Slash
on 2008-07-19 10:16:47
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thanks again for the comments!!
easytosay- i do agree with you on the fact that we need to date to grow from experiencing love and loss but it's just hard to put yourself out there over and over again.
slash- I'm not sure I even have a heart to wear on my sleeve but thanks for the encouraging words.
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Posted by Simply_Smile
on 2008-07-19 11:39:09
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I am at that point in my life too right now...It is hard for me now to see getting married...haha i did the whole high school sweetheart thing for 2 years and broke it off when we went to college cause over that summer i experienced new things changed and realized we were never going to work. Its even hard to see me having kids too and i really feel like there is no point in relationships or dating. i was just dumped by the love of my life when he left for overseas and we were talking about engagement when he got back but in the end he is married to the marines and wants glory and fame for himself. I know what i want from a guy and what i need and there is no sense for me to date another guy when i know its not going to work out. now i recently just realized where do i meet these guys. is it in a bar? or club? or church? where you find these guys shows where their priorities are. i do think though relationships get easier when you get older because A)if you are in your mid 20's or so meeting a guy he has done all that and been young and now wants to settle down and have a life with someone compared to a guy in their young 20's they just wanna have fun. face it most guys dont even know what the hell they wanna do in life and this age so why be with a guy who doesnt have his life together why not wait. i also dont really believe there is "the one" that special and only person made for you. my grandma lost her husband after 50 years of marriage and now she is 80 and has had a boyfriend, started as a dancing partner and a friend that grew. and she is perfectly happy now. i think god has planned for someone to be there at the right time but i think there are more than one person that might be right its just all about timing and for me i know the timing is not right and i know in my heart deep down that relationships are not for me unless god changes my heart and tells me otherwise haha... but i do not think there should be a certain amount of guys you date or a time limit because it doesnt take long for you to realize what personalities match with yours and what you want out of guy...
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Posted by mmeesh11
on 2008-07-19 20:07:52
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i don't think it's a pessimistic thought. afterall, if we'll come to think of it, it's all just reality. hmm generally speaking that it..
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Posted by cai_mirj
on 2008-07-29 00:28:37
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