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Weddings - a love-hate thing

Well, hey, folks,

I know that's a weird title. I love weddings, in one sense. I love the sense of union and the love and all the good wishes, and even the presents. I love the happy looks, the parents looking like they are not SO sure that this is the way to go. I even like seeing the bride and groom with their last-minute fidgets.

But, I HATE the crowds, and I hate the drinking (not all, but some weddings I've been to), and I hate the way some folks try to one-up the others, with bigger, better, fancier clothes or gifts, or just attitudes. I hate seeing everybody all tired and worn out, and starting to wonder if all the time and effort was worth those few hours. I hate seeing the doubts creep in, and the good humor going out the window.

Can you tell I have a wedding coming up on Saturday? A big one, out in the country, with LOTS of people. Oh, yeah, did I mention I HATE the crowds? Even though a large percentage of the crowd will be family In fact, maybe BECAUSE a large percentage of the crowd will be family. I love all of my family members, but I do much better with them on a one-to-one basis. Have I mentioned I hate CROWDS????? Oh, my, don't even get me started.

Now that I have had my rant (thanks for listening so patiently), I am fine again, and I am looking forward to the union of two of my most wonderful young folks (truly, I am). Besides, if the crowds get to bugging me, I will be right near a woods, so maybe I will go and practise my tree climbing. It has only been about 40 years, do you think I can manage to get up to the first limb. Wish me luck. And, once I get up there, if I once look down (given my fear of heights), do you think I will be able to get down. Better take along a really big book.

See ya later, blessings, and here's a bunch of hugs for you all.

XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO Never send hugs with no kisses, they get lonely, ya know. Take care, blessings -------------------------------------------- Shea

Posted by Shea on 2009-09-15 13:59:50 | Rating:

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I love weddings. Our family hasn't had one in a long time. The last one (that I know of anyway) was in 2003. One of my cousins got married when I was about 20 or so, and it was a ritzy/showy type of thing. Fancy sit-down dinner, orchestra - everything for show. It the worst wedding ever.

Hope you have a good time anyway.

Posted by Vampwriter on 2009-09-15 14:29:45

Oh, I am sure that I will have a good time. Good old country setting, probably plenty of good food, and I know that I do love all the people who will be there. So, it won't be so bad. And, I will try not to complain too much about the crowd. Of course, they all want to be there to celebrate our lovely Teri and sweet Brad's wedding. It has been a long time coming, and we are ready for it. I know all that, but have I mentioned I don't do well with crowds. There was a time I worried about panic attacks, that's how bad it was, but I think I have conquered that, at least.

Good to see you, as always, my dear Vamp

Hugs, my blessing ------------------------------------------------------- Shea

Posted by Shea on 2009-09-16 09:28:36

It can sure be exhausting- I always tell the mother of the bride and groom "go have a mental breakdown.. you earned it..." but it is one of the most moving ceremonys, too...

Posted by pastormike on 2009-09-15 16:39:16

Yes, PM, I do agree, it is a most moving ceremony. All that hope and peace and love going on. You can't help but be optimistic for the future at such a time. I adore my darling nephew, Brad, and Teri has been family for a long time, this just makes it official.

Do check out my alternate recipe for barbecue with Preacherman

Hugs, my dear PM --------------------------------------------- Shea

Posted by Shea on 2009-09-16 09:31:22

I'm a sucker for weddings - never mind the crowds, I'll find someone to talk to. B says that's the thing with me - I always find someone to talk to.....or a tree. Hope Saturday is much better than you think it will be and that you get to let your hair down and enjoy yourself thoroughly. Hugs (and kisses) E x

Posted by overthehillandfar... on 2009-09-15 17:34:57

My dear othaf,

I love weddings, too, I was just playing Scrooge (bah - humbug). And, I have had the same said about me. I never met anyone I could not talk to, and I have never been in a crowd that I did not find someone to learn from. People love to teach you new things, have you ever noticed that? So, I get into a questioning and learning mode, and take off.

Saturday will be great. I was only being silly, except like I said, I do have some problems with crowds. Fortunately, my family knows that, and if I even look like I am getting panicky, I have five people or so that will find me a sheltered spot, or at least, surround me with enough love to float my fears away, and I will be fine.

Let my hair down (hey, it's been a while). I think I might even have a dance or two. I will be in trouble if the boys want me to sing, though. Billy (Brad's brother) usually tries to strongarm me into it at family do's, but I don't really want to if there is as big a crowd as we are expecting. If I do, I will grab a baby to hold, and pretend I am singing to the baby. That always works for me.

Hugs, my precious blessing ------------------------------------- Shea

Posted by Shea on 2009-09-16 09:37:27