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| Advice for Men - Part 2. Getting a date! |
Hi again,
Thanks for all your kind comments about my last blog.called "Breaking the Ice" Here, as promised, is the next installment!!
Ive decided to focus this one on actually asking somebody out on a date.
Ok, so last time i advised you on how to approach a woman and get her to engage in conversation with you, but once youve got talking to her, you need to move things on, get her phone number and arrange a date! So here's my advice on how to do that!!
So many men say they are "bad at talking to women!" but the truth is they are not, theyre just not confident which makes the girl feel uncomfortable and causes an awkward situation, its not what you say that matters, its the way that you say it.
55% of what you "say" is in your body language, 38% is your tone of voice and only 7% is actual WORDS!! Thats how unimportant your words actually are!! This is why its very important to build rapport with a girl you like. Its basic psychology. By building rapport i mean mirroring her body language, maintaining eye contact, gestures, tone of voice and speed and volume of which she talks because by mirroring her she will think you are alike and therefor be able to relate to you. Many men stand with their hands in their pockets and look at the floor rather than look a girl in the eye. Trust me, this wont get you anywhere, it will just make her feel very uncomfortable. If the girl you are chatting up is sat down on a chair then its important for you to sit down aswell, if you stand over her your body language is threatening and thats not a good start. always make sure you are on the same level.
Making small talk:
- Stay away from deep subjects, keep it lighthearted (eg, music, sport, hobbies)
- Ask questions that require an answer and not YES / NO questions
- Keep the conversation flowing by ralating to her answers; eg, oh yeh i also go to the gym.....
OK so, Youre chatting to a girl, you are running out of small talk and its time to ask for her number. How do you do it?? Personally i prefer a guy to just BE A MAN and come straight out with it and ask. Here's a few suggestions on how to word it. Some are humerous, others are more straight forward, just depends on your style.
- "Well, its been lovely talking to you, is there any chance we could swap numbers and we could go out sometime and get to know eachother better?"
- "I've got to get back to my friends now but maybe i could take your shoes out to dinner sometime??"
- "Could i borrow your mobile (Cell) phone for a second?? why?? im just going to put my number in it incase you get home tonight and cant stop thinking about me!"
- "i'm a psychic you know??" she replies "are you??" you say "no, so you'd better give me your number or i will spend th rest of my life guessing!"
So hopefully now you've got her number, time to say your goodbyes. Lean in to gve her a kiss on the cheek, but maintain eye contact and do it very slowly, if she's into you its likely she will move her head so that you get the lips, if not youve not made a fool of yourself, youve just given her a polite kiss on the cheek.
So there we go, thats how to chat her up / get her number!! My next blog will be all about arranging a date, deciding where to take her, what to wear and when to text or call!! Stay tuned!! And PLEASE comment!!
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Posted by SaintHelen on 2009-05-24 21:35:16 | Rating: | Views: 67
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