Do guys prefer to approach women, or do they prefer when a women approaches them? Or are both methods acceptable?
My personal belief is that men would enjoy having a woman approach them. Why would they not? It is not fair to expect men to do all of the work when it comes to the whole "courting" process. Also, I think there are probably a lot of guys that are afraid of rejection. So if a woman is waiting for a man to approach her, and he likes her, but is afraid of rejection so he never asks her out, is this not the most ridiculous thing ever? Annnnnd, whether you like the woman or not, is it not a nice little ego boost to have someone hit on you/ask you out?
Someone recently told me that she believes a woman should never ask a man out, it should be the other way around. Like, it is an inherent thing for a man to "hunt" a woman. Hunt is likely not the word I'm thinking of, but you catch my drift. So, it is like a challenge, and they enjoy wooing us and by winning us over they have succeeded in their challenge? I don't know, that is the jist of what I got out of the conversation.
Anyways, thoughts?
Posted by Revolvingdoor on 2007-10-08 16:28:56 | Rating: n/a | Views: 83
well...wach man is different. My soon to be ex husband, yeah he was a sissy...I had to go after him. The man I left him for, yeah he is stronger and prefer's to be the pursuer, however, after 12 years of it, and no action, I think I stressed him out a bit. LOL I really believe each man is differnt as is each woman and it really depends on the connection and chemistry between the two. Good luck though!!!
Ok a male will weigh in here. I would love a woman to come after me, but I also love going after women. You also have to understand that sometimes it is nice to not have to open yourself up for one more knife...what do I mean? Ok, whenever I am home and I happen to have left the TV on and one of those daytime talk shows is on I hear constantly about how women wish men were more open to their emotions. Well it is possible that the reason we are not is exactly linked to pursuing. In grade school, high school, college, and after I asked 100's of women out and most said no. To their credit I would say 95 percent of the no's were done nicely and with class. But having to absorb all that rejection makes men have to build walls I think. So it would be nice if every so often we could have the chance to meet a great woman w/o the need to open up and absorb another shot maybe. One great example is a woman I saw on a train I took for months. She was there all summer, and I was 25 and she looked about my age, she was cute as anything, and I wanted to ask her out but never got the nerve till one day I did. She knew I was wanting t ask and had known for months. She was leaving for grad school the next day so we missed out, but that is life. My point is that why should men always need to be the one's that walk away after the no...and trust me ladies, few men that I know will not at least date you once, so that no will probably never happen at the first hello, unless they are married or committed. So yes, take a shot, ask, even us strong men like to be asked.
