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| A different look at ANGER!! Grr face!! |
What do we know about anger in a Relationship? Well the most obvious thing I think we think of first is that it's bad, and people get hurt. Sometimes the pain might be abusive with words we say, or other times it might go further to be abusive with violence, outbursts of uncontrolllable expression, resulting in harm to belongings, or worse...someone you Love.
But there's something else too. I have been doing some reading lately, and have come across some interesting information to help us all personally as to why anger in general should try to be avoided. the effect anger has on our bodies is quite stunning. The random times that we get angry for something, is generally harmless, but when we exhibit anger all the time; it can have unwanrted effects on our bodies. When we get angry we produce more hormones into our bodies, in particular a certain type of hormone which can be dangerous. For men the chance of coronary artery disease is greater when high levels of tosterone are released along with coristol. (Coristol also depresses the immune system and reduces the body's ability to fight infection.)
Also as we know High blood pressure can be dangerous, and getting angry also increases that risk factor, of again damaging arteries.
When it comes to your relationships, obviously not getting angry with each other is a good thing. But when you go to work, spend time with other people, encounter strangers you have to talk to on a daily basis, whatever the case may be...getting angry is just sometimes apart of life. So if you are the type of person who gets angry easily than most; it's time time to take steo back and re evaluate what makes you so mad all the time.
It could be the little things right now in life that make you mad, or maybe just the the same things each time, but you cannot break the pattern. Whatever the case may be, know that you can live healithier by not getting angry. Knowing and having that knowledge with you, may be able to help you when the feeling is coming on.
When you are getting imptient waiting for someone or something, a lot of us will start talking quietly to ourselves, asking questions..."Why si this taking so long..? What is happening...? Why, Why, Why..." This action that we take, of course provoked by our frustration, builds up anger, and will help you blow up rather than defuse. So when you get that feeling again, and you notice yourself muttering things outloud...stop yourself. Take a deep breath..as many as you want...and then let the muscles in your body from your feet to your head just untwist themsleves. close your eyes for a second if you can...and just breathe. Don't think about what's happening around you. Don't pay attention to what someone else is saying. Take the time and relax. you will feel so much more calm than before.
When you are at home and things get out of hand, you perhaps staet arguiing with the one you Love. This applies here too...just put your arms up, almost liek saying hold on...time out..and close your eyes take those deep breaths and let your muscles relax...then start talking about the problem at hand, instead of yelling and you may find a solution a lot quicker, and a lto happier.
now in the end of all this I am not syauing getting angry is all bad. Spurts of anger are good for us. They help us overcoem obstacles, by getting angry and in turn increasing the blood flow, we pump more oxygen to the necessary muscles to fight off the dnager we are facing, or run faster to escape it. But when it comes to be angry all the time. Know that you are hurting yourself on the inside, not jsut the people around you. So take the time, unwind, and breathe, relax and talk. You will feel so much better in the end.
(for more information on the book that brought the facts to ym attention, look up:When anger hurts:quieting the storm within)
My name is Jason Atkinson...and that is Relationship_News
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