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Recall a hard time in your life that you have over

Ive noticed that there are alot of people who need help with issues and hardships and these people arent allone. I figured I'd start a post that has people who tell of something that they have gone through to help others and give encouragement.

My mother died May 9th '05 when I was 15. She was a kind a generous woman. She was everything, she has been ill for years, had her gal bladder removed, 4 surgies for other problems, and later found out she may have had breast cancer...Everynight while attempting to sleep she would go to the bathroom for extended periods of time with no result, she hurt all the time. She took countless numbers of drugs but she still function as hard as she could, to help bring in money she substituted at school and tuaght at the local womens prison. She worked for years to get my dads disability from the government and she finally achieved her goal after so much crap from every department that she wrote the president, Geoge W. Bush. A few weeks later we got a reply along with an autographed picture saying that all is well and we shall be reivcieving the benefits and the beginning of the next month...Only to have an ex-coworker who envied my dad, and got a job at workers compensation or whatever stripped him of his greatly needed and rightfully deserved benefits. Now hes back at work with a broke back...My mom kept me in line, tought me that my job is to love Christ and to show it to inspire others. She tought me how to cook, sew, and be a good friend. She told me that I should show respect to others even if they dont deserve it and to live my life to be kind to others. She supported my poetry, and my hobbies. Gave me the insperation to do things that I never would have done. She was constantly tormented by relatives, (her mom, brothers and sisters) they would fuss at her and "b1tch" at her for nothing and i'd hear her cry at night. I used to snuggle with her and fall asleep next to her. The day after mothers day in 2005 my sister was going to town to take an ACT test and was going to tell her she was leaving but she was asleep and didnt want to disturb her since she nevers gets sleep. She was about to leave but I told her that I was about to go to my friends house but needed to ask her so we were going to tell her what we were going to do. I opened her door and looked at her face...I didnt notice she was my mom right away, her mouth was blue and open, her body cold. I tried to wake her but couldn't, I shook her and moved her and yelled all thoughout the house, but still no aknoledgement that she could hear nor feel me. I almost had a heartattck...being the senile child I was I called the ambulance only for them to arrive...look at her...not even do anything but turn towards us a showed a face of terror I found my mother...dead...that morning I didnt know what to do except cry profusly. I called my dad and he rushed home...I've nerver heard a grown man cry like that...it was scary in a sense. That day was filled with people i didnt know from the cops to abulance to relatives and so on....my youth minister hurried over and I was so glad he did...I needed someone. Since then I have found comfort in my friends, family (mainly my sister) and God. If I wasnt a christian...I know it would have hit me even harder and I wouldnt have found such refuge in the fact that now the pain she went through everyday was over, she didnt have to put up with the physical, and emotional/phsycological pain that she went through everday. And I know that one day I will she her again.
Although it hit me in the heart, Im doing much better now. I still cry sometimes when I miss her the most, and with mothers day approaching I know it will be hard again. My friends were there when I needed them the most, God was there and so was my father and sister. Thank you for reading my post...if you have something you would like to post, please do so. Thank You.