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Would you let them in again?

I dont normally ask for advice on matters like this because I am rubbish at giving advice but I don't think i am in the right place to work things out by myself.

I have only had 2 boyfriends in my life, the first was more of a friend really. But the last, Steve he was special. My family commitments mean i dont let a lot of people into my life but the ones i do mean everything to me.

We were together a long time and it was just...right. I felt secure and happy and i loved being with him. When he finished with me last month it was like my whole world was turned upside down. I had never been hurt that much before and I am still quite damaged from it, even to the point of having to have counselling, and anxiety attacks.

It has been 4 weeks now. And last night he decided he wanted to be my boyfriend again. He says he only finished it because he got scared, but now he realises we were meant to be together.

Of course I still love him inside. But on the otherhand I dont think i will ever forget the pain and hurt i felt over christmas '08.

I honestly dont know what to do...

Posted by PrettyWhenYouCry on 2009-01-27 09:18:02 | Rating:

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well hun give it a go.
just know an tellm everything youve been through
and everything he has put you through
and the reasons why your willing to give him a chance.
but you cant let it happen again an if it does,
tellm your gone.
when love is fucking up your health
then well
its not allways worth it.
you have to think about yourself a little.

Posted by kaotickatt123 on 2009-01-27 09:24:06

If you had been together for a long time, it's kind of an odd excuse for him to say he got scared. Familiarity with you, over a long period of time, should have given him reassurance that you're safe to be with. Being scared is an excuse for breaking up when a relationship is budding, but after six months or so -- if you're living together, or spending significant amounts of time in each other's homes -- fear should be giving place to trust, or else to the confidence that this isn't a good relationship. I mean, when you buy a cat or a dog, sometimes they're scared when you first bring them home; but within six months they've usually become accustomed to you and trust you. A pet doesn't just suddenly decide to find a new home, after six months, because it's scared.

Posted by MyGallimaufry on 2009-02-14 06:42:22