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This lady was telling me that I should wait until marriage to have sex and have a baby. Shesays its the right way to do it.  But who to say whats right for us? Well I see where she iscoming from with that, me, I would rather wait until love passes me by.

What do youthink of sex before marriage? Is it wrong? If you think its right or wrong, please explainwhy.
Posted by Plakola on 2008-06-27 11:18:05
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It's not wrong for two people too be together. If you know
somebody well enough and you want to be together,do it. This lady
was giving you her opionion. In the end,when it comes too your
lif,your opioion is the only one that matters. Do what you
believe is best for you. Peace,and let's all look out for each
other.
Posted by happyhippie1965 on 2008-06-27 11:37:10  
I think the traditional way of abstaining until after marriage
was because back in the day sex = a baby. Women were not able to
support themselves because society did not allow women to work.
Being married meant that the woman had a man to support her and
her child. Times have changed now so its understandable that a
lot of people have different views on abstinence.
Posted by smileforthecamera on 2008-06-27 12:12:47  
I agree wit smile for the camera. And also I think people
shouldn't have sex if they don't care about and respect each
other, and marriage won't necessarily bring that about!
Posted by CynicalSweetheart on 2008-06-27 14:01:35  
would you buy a car without test driving it?? how do you know
if you're going to have good sex & a good sex life with
someone if you don't try it first. it would suck to marry
someone & then have bad sex for the rest of your life. i'm
just saying. . .
Posted by toxicmeg09 on 2008-06-27 14:09:10  
It is not wrong to have sex before marriage at all. Some
religions think that, that is the better way to do it because
back then there wasn't such thing as pertection. Yes there
were/are plants that can stop you form producing entirely, but
for the most part the point was to save your self for the one
person you truely loved to have sex so you vould bare their
child. We're animals that want to have sex isn't unnatural in any
way. Go for it.
Posted by JViolet23 on 2008-06-27 14:42:53  
This is wrong. For have man religion so is this forbid that have
sex before marriage.
Posted by Ottehey on 2008-06-27 17:24:53  
I think you should always play it by ear. Stick to your instincts
to do what you feel but make sure its a good balance of your
heart and your mind not your panties.
Posted by Comet on 2008-06-27 23:19:38  
people have referred to "no sex before marriage" to be
the "traditional way" of things. But, quite honestly,
sex is too much of an important and special issue to look at it
as being scheduled. If you truley love someone enough to give
yourself to them, then go with your instincts. I think people
are too worried about sex leading to pregnancys too much, that
they forget about saftey issues, like condoms. Wear a condom, be
safe, and this way, you are able to enjoy the experience and
prepare yourself for the future ahead. If you wait, the
temptation and curiousity just may take over, and you may find
yourself having sex with the wrong person at the wrong time. But
if you go ahead, theres nothing to question about. Theres no
mystery. Just be careful.
Posted by rosiedamaniac28 on 2008-06-27 23:47:38  
I dont think people should have sex before marriage. Peope have
the right to their own opinion and thats mine :)
Posted by tarlz_blonde on 2008-06-28 06:34:42  
Sometimes you want to have sex,and you don't want too get
married.
Posted by happyhippie1965 on 2008-06-30 13:37:39  
hmmm..as a personal choice, i'd rather wait and get married first
before having sex..well its more of i'm scared of
sex??..lol..nah, its just that for me, my virginity is my
treasure, and when i find the right one for me, then i'll have my
treasure to share with them..Kind of old fashioned but that's who
i really am..(^_^)v
Posted by dea0914 on 2008-07-04 04:51:03  
I honestly don't know. I do think it is important that whoever
you have sex with, that you feel that person is special to you.
Posted by MyGallimaufry on 2008-07-04 18:18:55  
I honestly don't know the answer to this. I do think it is
important that the person you have sex with is special to you.
Posted by MyGallimaufry on 2008-07-04 18:20:20  
I honestly don't know the answer to this. I do think it is
important that the person you have sex with is special to you.
Posted by MyGallimaufry on 2008-07-04 18:20:35  
I honestly don't know the answer to this. I do think it is
important that the person you have sex with is special to you.
Posted by MyGallimaufry on 2008-07-04 18:20:52  
I honestly don't know the answer to this. I do think it is
important that the person you have sex with is special to you.
Posted by MyGallimaufry on 2008-07-04 18:21:07  
I honestly don't know the answer to this. I do think it is
important that the person you have sex with is special to you.
Posted by MyGallimaufry on 2008-07-04 18:21:11  
I will admit that I've had sex long before marriage (in fact I'm
not married). In this case there's this crazy type of intimacy
between my lover and I in having sex that's brought us closer
together. I'm not saying that I'm all pro-premarital sex, but
honestly, I believe it should be shared between people who
actually care about each other and aren't using each other for
the sake of sheer pleasure. There are those consequences that
one could get from just having sex, and i believe that people
should do it safely and with someone they feel comfortable with.
It's a big responsibility to raise children and I believe
that people should be well prepared to have children, it makes
things easier on themselves to be prepared for such a big
step. But i'm not saying people who didn't plan babies, can't
raise them (i was raised by parents who had me "on
accident").
Posted by Communistdaughter on 2008-07-04 23:23:11  
It's not wrong it's human. If you want to have sex that's totaly
up to you and your partner. As long as it's not rape it's 100%
natural. Just remember safety first.
Posted by Jose007 on 2008-07-05 02:34:06  
Dont because of Love to make love
Posted by GnR on 2008-07-22 22:09:42  
I think that sex should be shared between two people who can
truly understand what they are doing.I'm kinda on the fence on
whether it should be done in a marriage.But now I see that
marriage isn't on paper it is in the heart! Me myself I don't
have sex because I don't think I'm mature enough.Plus I believe
God has my partner somewhere waiting for me lol yeah .But hey
that's just me . . .
Posted by keyrabellajeanlee on 2008-08-12 07:34:20  
I think that sex should be shared between two people who can
truly understand what they are doing.I'm kinda on the fence on
whether it should be done in a marriage.But now I see that
marriage isn't on paper it is in the heart! Me myself I don't
have sex because I don't think I'm mature enough.Plus I believe
God has my partner somewhere waiting for me lol yeah .But hey
that's just me . . .
Posted by keyrabellajeanlee on 2008-08-12 07:35:26  
thats tought one i would perfer to wait till marrae in case
something became of it but the nagain if oy ulove someone then be
care i would say then agai nthats jsut my oppenian
Posted by werebait on 2008-08-31 11:08:06  
I think if you truly are in love than it is ok to make love
before marriage. I was 15 when i lost my virginity to my now
fiance and we have a 5 year old son. I'm 22 now and we are
engaged and not really planning on getting married.
Posted by enchantermdj22 on 2008-10-31 14:48:34  
i dont think its wrong to have sex before marriage but a huge
problem with those situations is that the girl gets PREGNANT and
sometimes the guy doesnt want to deal with it so he flips out and
the kid grows up with no father and maybe have a sucky life but
if yur gonna have sex b4 marriage do it carefully!protection!
Posted by kittykat1095 on 2008-11-01 12:20:20  
Well I guess most people hate God and want to fornicate. Why
don't you people go screw animals and appliances while you are at
it you freaky pan sexuals!
Posted by odinblack on 2008-11-01 23:56:45  
I don't really believe in the whole "sex before
marriage" thing. I think if you really love someone and are
using protection (hello people STD's and babies!) then I think
you should be able to be together on that level. But if you're
out having sex because you want to have fun, then that's just
stupid.
Posted by xxKitKatxx on 2008-11-02 15:53:00  
In the end you have to be responsible for your own life no matter
what comes to you in the end. You made that choice and you will
have to live with your choice. Trying to blame others is weak.
You weren't ready and shouldn't even be thinking of it if you
can't live with your own choices.
Posted by Ashion on 2008-11-04 08:24:55  
I say wait and might the right one. U never know how's clean.
Posted by rebeccasvocie on 2008-11-05 12:30:52  
Love is a powerful force... my friend said something to me that
will probably stick with me for quite sometime. I asked her
"How will you ever be sure that you met your soul
mate?" Her response: (referring to a tattoo on my right
foot) "You will be as sure as you were when you got that
tattoo, you knew you would never regret it and it will stay with
you forever." Her response was deep and makes me really
think, maybe it'll make you think too.
Posted by Roaming on 2008-11-07 13:22:09  
I do have several girlfriends before married. Yet, I could stand
for not having sex, intercourse for sure, and keep my virginity
until my marriage. Petting would be nice back then..
Posted by farano on 2008-11-13 04:26:43  
Neh, I'm one of those person who think that sex or
"lovemaking" is holy. it's a blessing from God and
should be done with "LOVE" and not
"LUST".. I may sound like shit or hypocrite but I
really believe this. I've been suppressing the urge to have
sex with one of my ex boyfriend before. why? because I still
believe that it'll be worthy to do it with my husband to
be.. "SEX" is not like a medical procedure that
needs careful practice, it's human instinct.. for sure, you'll
be happy and satisfied if you're doing it with the one you
love..w/out practice!!!!
Posted by claire2790 on 2008-11-15 00:57:24  
For serious, just do whatever you want. I mean really, just
because one lady was all pro-waiting does not mean you should be
too. Honestly, if you feel close to them or just want to have a
good time or whatever your reason is, have the sex and be done
with the whole issue. If it doesn't go as you thought it would,
oh well, experiences prepare you for the future. I mean really,
I had sex and God hasn't struck me down and sent me to Satan or
anything. So really, if you feel good with it then it's fine.
xoxo
Posted by fabbutterflyxxx on 2008-11-15 21:27:24  
For serious, just do whatever you want. I mean really, just
because one lady was all pro-waiting does not mean you should be
too. Honestly, if you feel close to them or just want to have a
good time or whatever your reason is, have the sex and be done
with the whole issue. If it doesn't go as you thought it would,
oh well, experiences prepare you for the future. I mean really,
I had sex and God hasn't struck me down and sent me to Satan or
anything. So really, if you feel good with it then it's fine.
xoxo
Posted by fabbutterflyxxx on 2008-11-15 21:28:46  
Sex before marriage is fine. Although I am part of a community
organization that promotes abstinence before marriage but let's
be for real. I always get the young girls asking questions. I
push them to protect themselves. If two people feel that it's
right then do it. In the end, it's your body...your in control.
Do what you want hun. Don't worry about what others think.
Posted by KitaKat00 on 2008-11-17 23:48:32  
i dont know.... it depends... like how religious you are.. or
how you're brought up.. i guess.. for some people.. they wanna
give the best.. to their loved ones.. you know.. on the wedding
night.. stuff.. it's like... serving them with a delicous
fruit... yeah? you wouldnt want to give your loved one something
that has been touched, or eaten.. by somebody else.. worse..you
wouldnt want to give your loved one something which has
rotten? but again.. it depends.. on how you view this matter...
marriage is something that all religion are serious about..
it's holy. and should be treaten very very well.. about knowing
the best sex or what your sex life would be if you're with this
person or another.. well.. i guess.. when two person who are
really in love.. and both of them has never been intimate with
anyone else before.. the feeling..of doing it the first time..
with someone you really doted on... i bet it's beautiful.. don't
u think so? i think that's what kept most of our grandparents
together.. i think sex before marriage that everybody's
practicing pretty much ruin it all.. yeah..
Posted by littlewanie on 2008-11-20 09:03:03  
is not about RELIGION, well not in my opinon, i believe just for
you not to try every other man in the planet.. you better wait
until marriage, and if we all decided to wait ( which I dont
believe is gonna happen ever), we had no point of comparison!!!!
but we are destructive people, so keep trying and trying and
traying... you might be lucky.... ja!!
Posted by ytuqueopinas on 2008-11-20 18:23:55  
i dont really think it matters if your married, if your happy
with someone for awhile, then its your choice.
Posted by dancerrxo on 2008-11-21 18:51:12  
Well its a good idea to wait, but the only thing wrong with that
is if the person is bad in bed.. then really the only thing going
to be fucked in the end is the marriage. Cause if your young,
than your going to want to do it.. and if its bad, that is going
to have a major negative effect on the whole relationship. SO
what I'm really trying to say is its best to have a "test
run" with that "special someone" before you really
tie the knot. Cause after that ring is on your finger, and those
vows are said.. its going to be hella hard to turn back.
Posted by tired4life on 2008-11-22 21:16:46  
it would be wrong for me to say not to have sex before marriage,
bc that would make a hypocryt. but its not up to anybody else but
the two ppl in the relationship. you cant go on what other ppl
say or do, if you feel that it is time for you to have sex with
someone, do it, if not then wait. but for me personally, i think
its better to have a baby after you're married. bc before that,
the guy (and no offense) but most guys run out on a female after
they find out the girl is pregnant. but if you wanna have sex,
have sex. shouldnt anyone stop you. if that person makes you
happy then go for it. hah.
Posted by coco619 on 2008-11-22 22:26:53  
no wway sex is 4 if u r in love no matter
Posted by bogsrocks on 2008-11-22 22:27:35  
it would be wrong for me to say not to have sex before marriage,
bc that would make a hypocryt. but its not up to anybody else but
the two ppl in the relationship. you cant go on what other ppl
say or do, if you feel that it is time for you to have sex with
someone, do it, if not then wait. but for me personally, i think
its better to have a baby after you're married. bc before that,
the guy (and no offense) but most guys run out on a female after
they find out the girl is pregnant. but if you wanna have sex,
have sex. shouldnt anyone stop you. if that person makes you
happy then go for it. hah.
Posted by coco619 on 2008-11-22 22:29:18  
sex before marriage is really your own decision. People will
always say its wrong, because thats how they were brought up. You
shouldn't just throw it away, by any means, have some
consideration in who you are with. But dont feel bad about what
you do just because others think you should. Its your life and
you have to live with your decisions, not them. i've had sex
before marriage when i was 18, i am now 20 and pregnant. but i
dont think its awful or a punishment. i wouldn't trade my baby
for anything. just make sure the person you are with treats you
right and makes you happy, and dont worry about what others say,
your the only one looking at your reflection every day, only you
have to like what you see.
Posted by kissthealjoe on 2008-11-23 18:59:13  
Sex before marriage is a hard choice. Everyone is different for
the simple fact is we all have different ideas and beliefs. But
plain and simply put, it is your choice and your choice alone. I
am however a firm believer that everyone that you are intimate
with you give a piece of yourself to them, weather you want to or
not. Does that make me a virgin...no and I'm not married either.
But I honestly do have days where I wish that I had all my pieces
that are out there back. The only advise I have to give is don't
get caught up in the moment. I'm not old school...I don't think a
girl is a whore if she has had more than one or heck more than 20
partners. But there comes a point in your life when you look back
and regret some of those urges that you gave into. You only have
one life to live, live it they way you think its best because at
the end of the day you are the one that has to live with the
decisions that you made. I don't think sex before marriage is
wrong. Not caring who you give it to I do believe is wrong.Once
you loose it you can never get it back. So before you jump take
the measurements on it's worth and you'll never have regrets.
Posted by Movingwiththoughts on 2008-11-24 02:16:47  
I don't think sex before marriage is wrong at all. If you love
and respect your partner, and they love and respect you back I
don't see anything wrong with having sex with them even if you're
not married. No one is right to tell you what is right or wrong
for you to do. It's really all up to you and how you feel about
it. If you want to, go for it, but make sure it's what you really
want. Don't worry about what other people think. It's your life,
so it's what YOU think not them.
Posted by LadySpaz on 2008-11-24 23:52:43  
well, i dont really mind the whole sex before marrage rule,
because i already broke it and im olny a freshman in highschool.
well i'll tell ya what, its not as bad as people think! its not
like im some kind of harlot now and thats all i want. see i think
that if you wait its ok, then you just think its a good thing
where as theres me, and i think that you can have sex before
marrage because its not going to take over your life, if its with
someone you really care about then thats great! just make sure
its what you want to do first, i know that when i first met my
boyfriend he didnt just want sex he wanted love. and now that
we've had sex, its made us stronger as a couple, we've become
closer and we talk about as much as we used to which is actually
alot. but now we know how much we really love each other, and
we've olny had sex once, yeah i've been with alot of other people
men and women, but thats just by my standards. dont worry you'll
know when the time is right.
Posted by beccarose on 2008-11-25 09:09:29  
well, i dont really mind the whole sex before marrage rule,
because i already broke it and im olny a freshman in highschool.
well i'll tell ya what, its not as bad as people think! its not
like im some kind of harlot now and thats all i want. see i think
that if you wait its ok, then you just think its a good thing
where as theres me, and i think that you can have sex before
marrage because its not going to take over your life, if its with
someone you really care about then thats great! just make sure
its what you want to do first, i know that when i first met my
boyfriend he didnt just want sex he wanted love. and now that
we've had sex, its made us stronger as a couple, we've become
closer and we talk about as much as we used to which is actually
alot. but now we know how much we really love each other, and
we've olny had sex once, yeah i've been with alot of other people
men and women, but thats just by my standards. dont worry you'll
know when the time is right.
Posted by beccarose on 2008-11-25 09:14:23  
I have never met anyone who waited until marriage that was
disappointed about their decision but I know plenty of people who
regret having pre-marital sex.
Posted by reformeddebtor on 2008-11-25 14:32:19  
Sex, like all human experiences is what we make it. If it is an
expression of shared pleasure with someone we trully love than it
is about love. If it is a casual, passion driven or impulsive
encounter than its adventure. It gets down to this. What do you
want to be for yourself? I did not have sex before marriage
because I wanted to only have sex with the person that I would
spend my life with. We have now been married twenty five years.
It has not been perfect but I do not regret my choice. I look at
it this way, as we age if she becomes helpless before me and
needs someone to bathe or hold her tired old unattractive body, I
am willing to do this and I will do it with love. What's more I
will do it with affection- for the old body that once aroused me
or just held me tightly on many winter nights.
Posted by phazeltine on 2008-11-27 20:01:40  
It is wrong to have sex before marriage because you are not
actually prepared for the responsiblity of a baby or aborting the
baby should your partner if that person is female become
pregnant. If you are not planning to stay with a person after
having sex then why are you having intercourse, the relationship,
etc at all! When you have intercourse with someone before
marriage things can get complicating if a pregnancy occurrs. And
if you breakup with someone you will leave that relationship with
a sense of loss and if you have sex with someone and breakup with
them continually then there will be a bunch of people walking
around who pregant or not have seen you naked and who wants
THAT!?
Posted by ldsteen17 on 2008-11-29 15:52:04  
I think it doesn't matter if it's before marriage as long as you
both know it's love, and it's for something more than
pleasure. I'm in the same sitch right now, my bf and i don't
know when to. But we both know it will be before marriage. I
think it's okie as long as you both know what you're getting in
to.
Posted by AngieLetBe on 2008-11-29 21:35:48  
I think if you want to have sex before marriage, go for it. I
mean, you shouldn't do things based on what other people tell you
to do, or what they have to say about it. If you love the person,
or even if you don't and it's just out of lust because we all
know that can happen, have sex with them! just know, that you'll
have to face any consequences that might come from that and
you'll have no one to blame but yourself. -K
Posted by sinncityy on 2008-12-01 14:09:21  
I think today is more about lust than love. Alot of people are
saying you need to test your partner out to make sure they are
good in bed before you marry them (is that love in the first
place)..... nevertheless if you wait before you're married and
you've never had sex before neither partner then you will have
nothing to compare to!! YOu won't know whats bad or not!! God
created intercourse to be shared between married couples its like
a wedding gift that no one else can give. I'll wait and even if
it takes longer than I expect for me to get married my body will
be kept fresh and new for that perfect man!
Posted by Heavenlypoeticbreeze7 on 2008-12-01 21:54:51  
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