I would not mind if my husband cheated it would give me the strength to leave...]
some times I wish he would..

I just did a little looking on Thoughts, There are a lot of plp here proudly blogging about being with another man!!

Aww thanks sweetie!!! I agree with ya

I cannot stand infidility on both parts. It is a bad thing. My ex-wife cheated on me and I left her with the quickness. It was hard for me to make love to her and not have that vision in my head about her being with another man. I am sensitive like that.

Peace be with you.

I've been on the other side of it - a long time ago. I know just how much it hurts and yet lately I've spoken to so many women whose husbands just walked away from their wife and children to live with women they 'lust' for. What I do know is that they will never know real happiness. Unless of course they are totally callous but then again they have to feel something for the woman they're with. However, if she's done it once she can do it again. I would hate to be in their shoes.

I know how deeply this has hurt you, Lindy. I truly pray you will find peace and happiness. You deserve it! xxx

Great post Lindy,

I know that you're heart is aching and your world is shattered. I'm happy to see you write about your feelings during this most difficult time. I think it will be very beneficial to those who are going through the same pain.

*hugs*

~ Mikaila

Would you believe em if they did answer your questions?

what r u talking about???

If a "other woman/man" answered your above questions... does it make you feel superior.. do you think about the wife, the family etc... would you believe their answers?

It would depend on their answers!!

From what I read, you are The Other Woman, how would you answer the questions?

actually I'm FORMERLY "the other woman" my ex and I have a child together and he stayed with his wife... that's the extremely consensed one sentence version of my story. anywhoo...
I will only speak for myself, as I am aware that there are lots of people out there that my answers do not apply too.
I was simply the other woman who fell for a conmans lies. I feel qualified to answer your questions because I continued our affair once I became aware of the so called truth...
I have taken the liberty of copy and pasting your questions for easier reading.

If you are involved or ever were involved with a married man, have you ever took a step back and wondered how "the wife" felt? yes actually, once I found out the truth it weighed heavily on my mind. however I felt powerless (that I credit to my naitivity) and I believed in him and everything he told me. hindsight, I was ridiculously lied too, and it took me years to see that. I feel for his wife now, because she has yet to see he's duped her too and STILL does.

Having an affair with a married man, does this make you feel superior? Do you feel like you hold the power? There is a certain element that gives you a feeling of "I'm better than her" but that is quickly counteracted with the severe guilt and disregarded non trust I had in him.

Do you not care how a family is affected by the affair? as harsh as this answer is going to sound, how it affect his family didn't register with me. I felt like by that point *I* wasn't responsible for his family.

I truly think all you care about is yourself, getting laid, and getting what you want, no matter the cost!! not true, I damn well guarantee you anything you could say to me, is tame in comparision what I have said to myself.. (I know this statment wasn't directed towards me.. I was just sayin')

Are you proud of yourself?? Is this how you get your kicks? not proud at all no matter what I say, but used to defending myself because as "the other" I take the brunt of the heat because ignorant perception is that I was the aggressor. and wifey can't POSSIBLY grasp the concept of her husband making the conscience effort to break their vows. and to admit that is equivalent (in her mind) that there is something wrong with HER (not her "perfect" husband, "who's just made a mistake")

breaking up a family, leaving a child or children fatherless, is this your goal in life?? Hell no, no one sets a life's goal to be take someone else's left overs. but I understand this question is coming from the pain of being a part of that broken family.

Are you so down on yourself, that all you can get is someone Else's man? If a woman is "insecure" the last thing she's going to feel the ability to accomplish is to "steal" another woman's man... it was a matter of his lies and his agression in pursuing me.

Do you not have the courage or self esteem to find a single decent man? see answer above.

Throwing yourself at a man, no matter what his marital status is, is this what turns you on? the first 5 words are a misconception.

I think that's my biggest gripe with this particular blog. you've stereotyped the "other" into a seductress when in actuality every circumstance is different. I understand you are the wife in your situation, and maybe you were told that SHE pursued him and your husband was overwhelemed and submitted to her sexual prowness. but open your eyes as objectively as you can, and give the "other" a break IF she deserves it. The real issue is with the character of the man involved.

Hi Pinkkitty

Someday, a great man will make you so much happier than your husband could've done if he had stayed with you.