Posted by
Lisa20
on 2008-02-21 05:49:04 |
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i think that leaving/going somewhere in order to change something in your life is pointless because where ever you go - there you are.
everyone wants someone to "make" them happy but its not a healthy perception and there is no such thing. the only person that should be able to make you happy is yourself, no one is out there for the sole purpose of making you happy - you should be happy with who you are becoming and being your own person - not depending on external things to manifest internal feelings i.e. happiness. as soon as you can grasp that the sooner you can let yourself be happy
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Posted by
TheAmandaChronicles
on 2008-02-21 07:39:54 |
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"I JUST WANT ONE PERSON THAT IS ONLY FOR ME, THAT ONLY WANTS TO MAKE ME HAPPY.
Its not being selfish, its being NOTICED."
You are not alone by wanting and deserving this.
You can always email me and talk to me. I may just be a stranger in cyberspace - but I do listen.
Sorry but I disagree with Lisa20 on her point of you don't need anyone to make you happy. Sometimes just knowing someone is there for you can make all the difference in the world.
The world is not as rosey for people like PinkZebra and myself - things just don't fall into place |
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Posted by
PinkZebra
on 2008-02-21 22:27:04 |
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I dont understand how I am supposed to make myself happy.
Im with myself all the time and that only makes me more sad..
My brain never turns off and being alone is basically suicide.
I think of most of my life, being put down by the people I love most,
So I think its normal for me to want someone to love me back... |
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Posted by
Lisa20
on 2008-02-22 01:13:04 |
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in the end all we have is ourselves -scary truth is - nothing lasts forever..we can deny it all we want but besides death, nothing in life is certain... is that not a fact? we know this yet we throw all we have into one person and we end up getting hurt over and over again and we end up blaming other people for not "making" us happy... how dare they not "make" us happy? I dont think people realise that the feeling, the sensation of happiness in itself is something created within us.. not something someone "makes" you feel.. you cant put someone on a pedastil and expect them to "make us happy" - when the only place it can truly come from is within.. why is that so hard to understand? theres nothing wrong with wanting to feel loved and feeling like we NEED that person in our lives, and i do believe that we are all derserving of love and being loved - but ultimately we need ourselves, we need to love ourselves and be happy withourselves, because at the end of the day all we have is ourselves. if you are unhappy with yourself, you will never be happy with someone else. we cant expect other people to heal our wounds, to make it all better, to save us. i know because i myself searched high and low for someone to rescue me from my life. and i tell you one thing, there is nothing better than finding out that you can be "ok" on your own. how liberating it is to know that you can carry yourself through anything - that you are strong. it doesnt mean you cant love anyone, it means you can love someone in a more healthy way and be your own person at the same time - to be happy even when they are not around. even if something terrible happens, you will hurt you will be devastated but you will know that you can still find happiness in the simple act of being you - of living your life and being you instead of losing yourself in someone else. an apple tree does not strain itself to grow, it just "is" - just like happiness.
i have had plenty of hurts and when you get to the point in life where you can say "hay, im alive, i survived it - i was devastated and hurt, but im still here standing" is when you are really living. look back at all the people that have hurt you or have done you wrong/let you down and realise that you dont have to be a part of it anymore, it doesnt have to determine the rest of your life - that you are your own person and no one else can dictate the way you feel but you.
listen to this story: a girl spent all day trying to catch butterflies, she had all the right equipment, spent hours.. but to no avail she just couldnt reach them.. she got upset and eventually laid down on the grass... when she woke up she was covered in them! - so as soon as you relax and stop thinking so much about what you think you lack in life, focus on what you already have, focus on something entirely different and one day you will wake up crawling with things that you so deeply desire... but dont mark your happiness on it.. "when i find the one, then i will be happy", "when i lose 10 pounds, then i will be body confident"etc. - be happy now - sieze the moment and live your life. lifes too short not to |
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Posted by
Lisa20
on 2008-02-22 01:26:32 |
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| sorry if i seem like im giving you a lecture - but im just very passionate when it comes to this because you sound exactly how i used to |
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