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Hi Again
I need advice. Since October of last year it has been playing up on my mind. From my previous posts you know that I am getting married, our road to July has not been smooth and part of it no actually a major part of that is because of my sister in law to be. We found out last October that she is engaged to her then boyfriend of a couple of months. Dont get me wrong, I was happy for them, it was a bit rushed I thought but hey who am I to judge their decision. Funnily enough, we also got engaged in October but from the previous year. A couple of weeks later we found out that SIL and her fiance are going to get married this October, a couple of months after ours. I was really upset, I really thought that this year was for me and my H2B, and the focus could be on us for once. How wrong was I. It felt like she just needed to "one-up" me. After a while I had to get over it, what else can I do, I cant make them change their minds. But the clincher came after finding out about their engagement, I was at home and checking my sites (ie MySpace) and found SIL fiance's page, on it, it claimed "Excited to become a daddy". I was confused as we have not heard of any impending births and so I asked my H2B but he was not aware of anything also. It was then confirmed that yes they were pregnant and the baby is due on the 1st of July this year, two weeks before our wedding!!
I think I may have rambled on a bit there and for that I am sorry, I am still very upset about it all. I just feel so angry. What am I suppose to do, I cannot stand going over to my H2B parents, I cannot stand hearing about their wedding, I cannot stand being around them as they dont seem interested in us they are only interested in their lives.
I hate it!!!!!
I need advice to move on from this, I need to be able to let it go as my fiance is probably over my ramblings about his side of the family.
Am I selfish for thinking all of this?
Need Advice Please!!!!
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Posted by PinkElephant on 2008-03-19 04:44:15 | Rating: | Views: 71
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I think you are quite natural on your part even I might have felt the same way if I had been you.Try to ignore what ever you dislike. may be that could help.
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Posted by neha1987
on 2008-03-19 05:24:46
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I am just being the devils advocate here.I don't mean any offense.The wedding is only "one" day of your life.Ceremony,reception then you sink into married life.Please don't put all of your focus on your wedding.Use your focus for your marriage,that is much more important.Remember your H2B's family will be a part of your family.You will be dealing with your sister in law for the rest of your married days.Let the bad feelings go,You'll end up feeling much better.
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Posted by pitapie50
on 2008-03-19 07:05:24
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Like what the rest commented, letting go is the best solution. I can say not many people out there is considerate enough including our own family members. So it's definetely not selfish of you to think this way...
It's already a fact, and like you mentioned you can't make them change their mind, so why don't you try accepting it and put your focus on many many beautiful things that will be coming along your life. JUst like a beautiful marriage :)
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Posted by Elaina
on 2008-03-20 06:16:46
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Im not sure why you are hung up on all that. I didnt read any other posts, sorry. But, there has to be something rather personal like a grudge to hold such resentment. You feel in contention with these people. You feel you are in a race. I dont think any advice can fix this unless you expect a deluge of echoes telling you to let it go. I think if it is that bad, perhaps you could evade the major events of said other marriage/baby and focus on your own. It may cause some tensions between family, but if that is what it takes for you to free your mind of the stress, then do it. Work the rest out later. I would hate to ruin my own happiness out of some competition or resentment in the family. That is why my wedding--or other form of union--will be quite private:P
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Posted by brainstormer
on 2008-03-20 23:04:07
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