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I was asked, is peace in our personal life possible? My original answer would probably have been maybe, but now I have escalated it to a very strong maybe…if. Personal peace to me would have to be a point where even though there is drama going on all around us, we are not involved because we have an inner calm that rises above the situations that are around us. In other words, we cannot get caught up in the webs of other people’s problems when it affects the calmness of our inner beings.
I don’t mean we have to be callous and indifferent to people with problems; everyone has issues of some sort. What I mean is we can’t take people’s actions, toward us or around us, personally. Whether they mean to hurt us intentionally or hurt us indirectly….it is their problem, not ours. We can’t let it become our problem and suddenly find ourselves to be victims of other people’s drama.
If we are depending on other people to satisfy our personal peace, we are sliding down a web-filled slippery slope that leads to nothing but personal turmoil. We can’t expect other people to fulfill our needs because it always leads to hurt and disappointment. Am I fulfilling anyone’s needs? I think of myself as a caring person, but I would be drained beyond repair if all I thought about was other people’s needs. I would become the poster child for the used and abused. You cannot do enough for someone. I’ll repeat that…YOU CANNOT DO ENOUGH FOR SOMEONE. We can be caring without having to become part of someone else’s drama. We can listen to the problems, reassure the person that everything is going to be fine, and don’t pass the conversation on to anyone else.
If you think you are a giving person but expect something in return, then you are not a giving person. This is a web of our own creation. A gift is something you give freely out of love for someone else. If we are giving someone a gift, our time, or our service with the thought in mind that they now owe us for something, we are headed for inner turmoil. We are headed for disappointment and depression. How many times have we thought, I’m just mad at everybody? We think they owe us a little more than they are giving.
If we don’t expect anything from anyone, then anything they do for us will be a welcome surprise. If we have true friends there will be a give and take that makes life bearable, but we can’t ruin it by depending on them to be there for every need we have. The same can be said of romantic relationships. We can talk about our needs to one another as lovers and friends, but we are headed for heartbreak if we depend on our partners for inner peace.
Personal peace comes from within us. Personal peace is knowing we are doing our best at whatever we are attempting to do. Personal peace is knowing that we are treating people the best that we can without intentionally hurting anyone. Personal peace is relying on a belief system within ourselves that plants us firmly on a solid foundation so that our hearts and souls can roam freely amongst turmoil with little or no damage. Personal peace is a feeling in our hearts that everything is going to be alright.
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Posted by Pauligan on 2008-07-25 07:17:04 | Rating: | Views: 85
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wow,i find i can really learn so much from it,personal peace.....true love is giving without expecting return!!ya,definitely,as long as we do what we think is right,theres no regret,no matter there's return from others. thank you so much.
have a great day^^
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Posted by nina880224
on 2008-07-25 07:47:07
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Thanks nina, have a great day and enjoy your personal peace.
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Posted by Pauligan
on 2008-07-25 07:54:18
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If you love and care about someone, and they need help to find inner peace, I can't help but think if you can help them, even if it means giving up some of your inner peace for a while, you should do what you can....I know from my experience, this has given me personal peace.
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Posted by slowtolearn
on 2008-07-25 08:49:15
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Why would you have to give up your inner peace to help them, slowtolearn? You don't have to entangle yourself in other's problems to help them. Sharing their problem is probably more harmful than helpful.
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Posted by Pauligan
on 2008-07-25 10:18:42
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We will just agree to disagree...more peaceful that way
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Posted by slowtolearn
on 2008-07-25 12:54:36
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Sounds fair to me, slowtolearn.
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Posted by Pauligan
on 2008-07-25 14:49:51
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