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Update on Rocky Bottom...
Well, I went to see my kids and I always do haircuts while I am there. This time my youngest daughter asked me to cut her hair. I asked her how she wanted it cut and she didn't know but she was frustrated and just wanted it cut. So I told her to look on the internet and see what she could find for medium length cuts. I suggested an a-line and explained what it looked like and while there was no picture I pointed to one cut and said it was like that but followed the chin line. She said that looks OK. So I cut off about eight inches of hair into the cut I thought we had agreed to.
Well, she did not understand what I had described and when she saw it, she freaked out and her significant other freaked out and it is now completely out of proportion and she is not talking to any of us and her significant other was going to confront me but my other daughter refused to support his intention to confront me and on...and on...and on...
My family relationships are complicated and we have gone through some incredibly painful events. My child is fragile and volatile. I know this. While I did not give her a bad cut I did give her the wrong cut. She did not understand how much we needed to cut and it was apparently in conflict with some agreement between her self and her significant other who proceeded to ridicule her and the way she looked.
It has been three days and my family is still in melt down and the fires are still raging. She is
being nasty to her sister and refuses to speak to me.
I just posted my own frustration over my cut and I do know what it is like to have a bad cut. But once again, the cut I gave her is not a bad cut..it is the wrong cut...and I wish with all my heart I could go back to Halloween and refuse to cut her hair. I can only say I am sorry so many times. I take responsibility for not being more assertive with her about what she actually wanted.
What is really sad it that it is not the cut at all. It is unresolved issues that have been left to fester until any offence is a reason to drop THE BOMB. I am more concerned with the underlying issues.
All I can do is wait for her to stop being mad... I hope I don't have to wait for eight inches of hair to grow because it has already grown to twelve inches in the last three days....
I have been here so many times with my kids...I'm tired...my heart is sore...
So now you know what happened.
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Posted by Olla on 2009-11-03 22:22:41 | Rating: | Views: 33
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