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Welcome to the cyber meat market...

I guess dating has changed a lot since the late 80s. I am a divorcing mother of three and I am now starting to explore the dating scene. I have been seeing men now for the past 5 months and I will try to bring you up to speed on the ups and downs so far. Yes, I have dated quite a few men. Sometimes only once and other times for up to a couple of months.

The first important thing that I have done was to register for an online dating service. This is quite different from the last time I dated. Eighteen years ago, the internet was just getting started. Today, it is an intergral part of our daily lives. This goes for dating as well. With the time committments to my children, I really don't have the time to go out to the bars and meet men. Besides, what type of men do you typically meet in the bars? The internet offers women a way in which to safely screen men. It can be dangerous, but it is up to women to really draw their boundaries and take their time. Meet only in public places and really try to get to know the individuals you may be emailing and chatting with over the phone. Take your time and take it slow...

OK...I am not even sure how long this list is going to be, but I will try and recap all of the men I have dated and for how long I have dated them:

D*n: Chatted online for a week plus. Met and probably had the most romantic date I have ever had. A late evening picnic overlooking a lake. Got kicked out of the park by the park rangers at midnight and then went for breakfast. Why did it end? He wasn't ready to date and had some serious personal issues.

R***y: Dated for nearly two months. Really started to have feelings for this guy. Liked him but after two months, he was still going online and checking out women, etc. I may have been a bit premature ending it, but I really felt that after two months, he would have an idea if he wanted to get to know me better or just let me go. I don't want to be a Mrs. Right Now...

J*m: Only guy I dated that I did not meet from online. I met this one in a bar. Went out for about three weeks. This guy just broke up with his wife and was into BDSM. He was really one twisted fuck... Need I say more...

R***y 2: Talked to this guy for a couple of times months ago over the phone, but I was dating someone else at the time so we did not meet. He called again and we met. Went out for about three weeks. This guy went through a rough break up and really is down on life and women in general. I like men who are a bit more happier with life. More than anything, I think I just feel sorry for him. I don't think I have officially broke up with him, but at the same point, I have no desire to meet with him again. I just wish he would smile...

Current Interests:

D**e: Met for one date. Holidays keeping us both busy. Liked his company but not sure if it's going to go further.

J*n: Have chatted online a lot. He makes me laugh. Only drawback is that he works when I am off. Seeing each other would become quite a challenge.

R**k: Chatting online. He's been a real gentleman. Haven't talked on the phone yet. His girls are up visiting for the holidays.

D****s: Chatted online and have been talking on the phone almost daily. Tried to meet twice already, but life has been interrupting.

D*n: Been emailing, slowly at first, but it seems to have been picking up in pace over the past day or so. We are talking abut meeting after xmas now.

OK...I think I have them all listed. I may have forgotten one or two, but it's a pretty good list. I don't wish to elaborate on names, so I have starred out the centers. I will try to keep up this policy, but it may get tedious in the end. And no, just because I have dated them does not mean that I have slept with them.

I think this will be a fun blog. I want to try and keep track of phone calls and texts and such. Dating is really hard work nowadays and a very different experience.