Recently I was inspired by a poem that appeared in a e-newsletter that I subscribe to. 

THE SAD GAME
Blame
Keeps the sad game going.
It keeps stealing all your wealth —
Giving it to an imbecile with
No financial skills.
Dear one,
Wise
Up.
— Hafiz quoted in The Gift translated by Daniel Ladinsky

I made a commitment to step out of the The Sad Game by avoiding blaming.  Practicing radical acceptance is almost a guaranteed way to stay out of The Sad Game. 

Radical acceptance is: 

"freedom from suffering requires ACCEPTANCE from deep within of what is. Let yourself go completely with what is. Let go of fighting reality.

ACCEPTANCE is the only way out of hell.

Pain creates suffering only when you refuse to ACCEPT the pain.

Deciding to tolerate the moment is ACCEPTANCE.

ACCEPTANCE is acknowledging what is exactly as it is.

To ACCEPT something is not the same as judging it good."

from "Basic Principles of Accepting Reality" by Dr. Marsha Linehan.
http://www.soulselfhelp.on.ca/radicalacceptancefreedom.html
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An example of how this works in my life: 
This morning I was confronted with a situation that stirred up all kinds of feelings.  I was confronted with the reality of how a indiscretion of mine caused distress for someone else.  I noticed and acknowledged all the feelings, including/especially the feelings of inadequacy. 

I held myself accountable for the indiscretion and its resulting effect.  I expressed my sincere apologies to the person affected, providing background information about where that indiscretion came from. 

In the past I probably would have gotten into the:  "how could I have been so stupid; omg how could i be so insensitive; she's right, i'm wrong; etc" 

Today as quickly as the feelings came they were gone as I didn't fight (or rebel) against them.  Just let them be and chose my course of action.

That issue is now done!  The other person and I have achieved resolution.

Radical acceptance rocks!