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I've been doing some thinking today. I just started my second job and will be working up to 16 hours a day just to pay ahead on my bills and to have money saved to take care of the baby when she is born and I can't work. I realized that I have had to turn my life upside down for my daughter and that's ok because I love her. But BD gets to go on with his life with no new resposibilites while I have to figure out how to get a babysitter so I can work. I have been contimplating on giving her to BD full time after she is born. I'm not sure if it is the right thing to do. I'm not giving up on her because I don't want the responsibility. BD has 3 other children that are now in foster care. Not completely his fault but why should he be able to get me pregnant and then walk away while I get to bear the load. I am definitely going to be going after him for child support if I keep her but I don't think she should have to go through life without a father. In all reality, I would be terrified on how she would grow up if she was with him and I wasn't around. My mom would be heartbroken if I gave her up because she is more excited than anyone for her arrival. Maybe I should just scare BD and send him a text asking him if he would consider taking her after she's born. I'm sure it's just the hormones and the fear of uncertainty that is making me feel this way. Now that I am single and the dream of BD, baby and I being a family are gone, I just want to go out and enjoy life. I know that having a kid isn't the end of my social life but it feels like it. So, should I give her to him? Will I get over these feelings? Should I send him a text to see how he feels?
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Posted by Mommy2Be on 2008-03-26 20:23:15 | Rating: | Views: 108
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I left you a comment about this baby..Please if you are still having your parents support, please tell them what you are feeling....Think about adoption for her if you don't want to do this. Don't give her to BD. If his other children are in foster care, where do you think she will end up if he has her? He apparently isn't as concerned as you are about her, or else BD would move back with you and make things work where you can be close to your family....Your family is more supportive. You need your parents support..SO if you and he want to work this out, make him come back to you,.Stay close to your family....DO NOT give your baby to him to raise....And I am sorry if this hurts your feelings, but you know how you got pregnant and now it is time for you to grow up and take responsibilty for this little life.....Either you raise her, or give her up for adoption..
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Posted by Hollis
on 2008-03-26 20:49:32
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Hollis is right. If your parents are good people, please invite them into your decision. Do what is best for the baby. It does not sound like BD is what is best.
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Posted by HungryHeart
on 2008-03-27 01:35:35
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Although foster care does work for some, most children are shuttled around and usually end up where I work. Abused and scarred for life. Please consider adoption or keep your baby. Include your parents in the decision process. Not sure how old you are, but if they're in your life, please let them help you. If they can't help, there are many people who can help. You aren't alone, find the help you need by reaching out to others. I wish you and the baby well.
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Posted by Ellie2008
on 2008-03-27 18:59:14
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