im sorry! that totally sucks. well you were dating for 2 years yeah? maybe he lost interest in that time. he obviously isnt giving you the attention you need (or deserve). so i think you should consider breaking it off. i know its so hard to do, but it would be better to take this as a warning sign before he does something worse right?

I don't think he was going behind your back to comment about another woman if he willingly offered to show you the text when you brought it up. Men are always going to look at other women and comment on their appearance - it's their nature. You're acting as though you've never looked at another man in the 2 years you've been with him.
I think you're overreacting way too much. By reacting the way you did (are), you're showing how insecure you are with yourself and your relationship. You should just drop it.
You're a grown woman, act like one.

It's human nature to look at other ppl, yes. But being sneaky about it? Really? And he offered to show me a text because he knew I would feel bad about getting mad and not want to read it. That's how he's always been.
I do appreciate your opinion and you have a point but no need to be snotty about it.

Texting other girls that aren't your girlfriend about a girl while you are with your girlfriend while not telling your girlfriend something really hot.... probably isn't a good thing.

First, JustLorena, I will say this bluntly, as is my nature: don't be a bitch. In what universe is being critical of her feelings and insecurites going to help her situation at all? You might as well not even wasted your energy. Sad.
I have a strong set of beliefs about something like this. Acknowledging another woman's attractiveness while you're out with your girlfriend, while kind of annoying, will happen. But the energy he put into the situation (i.e., texting his friend about it, taking the time out of their date to check her out), is a problem. On a couple's two year anniversary, the attention should be mainly on each other. By not noticing that she looked good, wile noticing some other random bitch, shows where his attention is focused, which isn't on her. I'm guessing he shows that his attention, and or thoughts, isn't on you in day to life in little ways all the time, am I right? Putting other facets of his life that don't matter much (I'm talking about things like being late to hang out with you because he's dinking around, forgetting or just not caring about things you've asked him to do because he's thinking about other things constantly,ect.). He's trying to act as though he's single, and like she has no right to interfere. NOT OKAY. From other things I've heard about this relationship, coupled with this display, tells me he's lost his general drive to show you you're important. Sure, you're there, sure, he's happy about that, but would he mind overly much if you weren't? That's the question you need to ask yourself. And if that question is answered with a no based on his actions and the way he treats you, he needs to go.

I'd like to point out that MissNaive, stonedraider, and KineticFreedom are aliases of the same person. Beside from the fact that these accounts were all created within a similar time frame, you made it extremely obvious by giving away too much info as KineticFreedom.

People like you, Miss, are sad. You lie to yourself, then proceed to lie about your lies.

If you're going to ask for advice, know that you will likely get critical responses. JustLorena was just trying to give advice, but you're not here for that -- are you? You just want people to agree with you, about how much of a "douche" he is. That was proven to me in your tags.

So, obviously, since you DON'T want advice, I'm just going to be equally as blunt: you're an insecure little bitch, and you should be happy to even have a boyfriend. I'd honestly shoot myself in the face if I had to date you.

That is not the truth. Maybe you can verify the IP's from where the posts are coming from, I am a anonymous friend of the individual asking for advice.... I am sure the other people know her as well, and would like to remain anonymous.... So you are just a dumb mother fucking asshole.

Everything written on here is an exact fact of what happened. I created an account to get some real opinions about this that were not biased and appreciated everyone who answered. I can take and do appreciate criticism as long as it is not being bitchy. I would never create my own separate accounts for something like this. What would the point be?
I don't need to be told I'm right to get on with life, I just wanted to know if i even had a case bringing it up to him.
I told a couple friends and if they decided to write their views down for me to be able to read over and think about, so be it. positive or not, they just contributed to the argument.
Now say what you wish about me and that fact, I don't mind.
I just want real opinions
if it's bad, ok
Bring on the criticism.

So, why not just ask your "friends" in person, over the phone, or via more private means? Why tell them to create an account, go to your blog, and essentially side with you on this issue? It just doesn't add up. If they are speaking for you, then it is basically the same as if you were saying it.

I did ask them and wanted something I could actually go back and reference in an argument. Aka them writing it down for me.
I am glad they wrote their thoughts, even if they agreed with me because their points bring up more points from other people which helps me think in depth over this.

Why did you go to the bar for your anniversary. You should have gone and done something, just the two of you, pre-arranged, the works.

If you guys want a successful relationship, you need to communicate better between yourselves. If you cannot trust each other, then what relationship is it? Just one to get by.

I've got some great relationship newsletter that I send out each week to a large group of people via email. I want to send it to you too!

Email me at jasonrelationshipnews@gmail.com

Just give me your name, and your preferred email address you want them sent too.
Then all you have to do is receive them, read them and apply them.

I hope to hear from you soon.