Dear MissMe,

"I'm insecure about almost everything and there's mistrust in my relationship on both parts. Not necessarily caused by anything just fears and hurt from the past. Is there anyway I can curve those worries and fears?"

First of all, you have to be completely honest with your partner in the relationship.  Let that person know that there is something holding you back from being completely trusting in the relationship.  If it's nothing with your significant other in particular make very sure that they are aware that it isn't them.  As for your insecurity, I would argue that it is caused by something.  Insecurity can stem from many places and being hurt in the past is a very common occurence. 

My advice is that after you talk with your partner, you need to definitely spend time with yourself.  Figure out what exactly it is that makes you insecure.  What situation/person/problem made you this way?  After you understand completely you will be more able to move on.  I know it sounds cheesy but honestly, make a list (maybe literal or mental list) of what you think you do well.  Are you a great cook?  Great at sports?  A great friend?  Find that thing that you love and makes you happy and run with it.  It may feel like being conceited, but you deserve to feel good about yourself.   Once you have more confidence in yourself, the confidence in the relationship will follow.

-MissMe

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