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has anyone out there married because it seemed like the next logical step? of course. i'm not the only one with this problem - even though because i'm feeling completely egocentric right now - it feels like it. sometimes i look at him - really look at him and wonder how it is after being together for 12 years and being married for 8 years that i can feel like i don't know this man. had we thought about it, we wouldn't have married. we're so different. and it doesn't seem like different in the complimentary ways but in the clash of the titans way. i yell and curse when i'm mad, he uses a loud, annoying voice - but not yelling - just this tone....i'm sure someone knows THE TONE. why does there always have to be a tone when he talks to me? i ask him if he can grab something on his way through the kitchen - "I GUESS" with the tone.
he only listens when i'm on the brink of hysteria. he claims he'll change. he claims he will try. i have been having the same argument w/ him for 12 years. my fault for getting married. i'm sure i'll use this as a forum to lament about specifics very soon.
i'm complaining and whining. i know and i don't really care. i need someone to listen - some kind of audience that doesn' t have a connection to my life. maybe i should suck it up, but maybe not. there's a whole lot here with this man and how very very dumb he can be when it comes to being a good husband.
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Posted by Mirasha on 2007-11-05 20:03:24 | Rating: | Views: 64
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No, you're not the only one... I got married not because I was madly in love, but because I wanted to be married and have children... isn't that what we're supposed to do? And now, 4 years and 2 children later, I'm regretting it. We can't even go one night without a fight of some kind. But I don't know at what point to jump ship, so to speak...
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Posted by silverjeannie
on 2007-11-05 20:15:48
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I can't comment on being married. But I can comment on being in a screwy relationship. The tones, the eyes and the disgust. You are only asking for something minor and they do their best to hurt you in word and action. Why do we put up with men's BS! I still can't figure that out. I want to be out of this relationship so bad and it's so hard. The only advise I can give you is to be true to your self. Analyze if sacrificing more of your life for someone who does not appreciate you for the wonderful person you are is really worth being part of your life? That is what I'm asking myself every day. Guess what every day I'm building up the courage to move on from this disfunctional relationship. Don't ever suck it up or grin and bear it. Not healthy. Life is short. Make the decision when you feel is the right time. Ask yourself every day whether you deserve all the crap that your getting and you will see that slowly you will build the courage to do what is right for you. Remember DO NOT let too much time go buy. Time is precious and is a gift from God. Hope this helps. Keep your head up.
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Posted by Yani0524
on 2007-11-05 20:27:38
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