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The good the bad and the ugly

Coffee guy and I met 5 years ago...
He was the one serving my coffee and I came in every morning before work.
We went out and it was great.
He was everything I wanted, we clicked.
The a year later he was acting odd, brushing me off, hanging out a lot with his friends and he lost a lot of weight.
Being the naive girl I was didn't know he was on coke.
I cried may nights for the way he treated me during that year and when he finally told me I was more relieved than mad.
I think it was because there was a reason for the way he behaved, it wasn't my fault, it wasn't me.

He's been clean since he's told me,
but he's isolated himself from a social life.
I am his world.
It was nice at first but then we bacame and still are very much dependant on each other.

I love him but I need him to get up and get his life in order.
I feel like we haven't moved on in 3 years.
He's so vulnerable and if I leave I feel like i'm adbandoning him.
How can I do that? How can I be okay with making him feel like that?

We've talked about it and he says he'll do it, he'll make the effort
but actions speak louder than words.
Where does that leave us, and what does that leave me to do?