We are not all the same...we are not even close! I had to laugh when I read your blog..especially the bit about the toilet seat and driving on the road (had never seen the two put in the same context before)...

I'm sorry you have had to put up with the crap but maybe it was just so when you do find someone who is worth it you'll recognize it straight away.

You are more than halfway there, at least you know what you definately dont want and most blokes I know are still trying to sort out what they "are" let alone what the want (or not) in a woman...

Dont give up, woman who are confident, secure, have a sense of humour and appreciate a thinking man are out there...you just have to find each other :)

Jo

If I were only younger, fitter and not half a world away I might give this a shot...

You give me hope that there are some honest,real men out there who don't want their arses wiped and their egos stroked (constantly) and who can just be human and accept that we are too.

Sue

Great stuff man! Remember, keep walking. Those who stop. Stop.

Ok, so you are looking for someone who you think is outside the norm, hows this? Im 24 and pregnant so yes im a bit fat. My obsessions include books, and I say say that widely I read so many different genres I can never pick just one, and tricking people into eating my newest cooking creation, I refuse to test anything new and believe me Im good at what I do. I think that other people get annoyed when people speak truths that hit too close to home, thoughts they have rolling around in their own heads. Their own insecurities. I believe that most of the time its not worth my energy to get or stay mad, but when it is heaven can't help the person on the recieving end. And no, I'm not a big believer in that place either. I think of the easiest ways to effectthe world is one most often ignored, after all how often does someone else's rudeness, affect our moods. So, don't be rude, hold the door, say hello, smile and express geniune interest in others lives. Wishing someone else joy, luck, or a good day, costs me nothing. And can only help me, after all one of the absolutes in thisworldis that which you give you get back. Im a big believer in karma. I think that every has someone they are meant to be with, and I'm content to know that no matter my choices I will find that person one day. Im happy with who I am and have no real desire to change. I like my job, my house, my complicated if predictable relationship with my family and my knowledge that I am right where I am supposed to be.

Isn't it just too bad, I want a guy who is willing to put the tiolet seat down?

You know life is ever changing and with that brings new adventures for both sexes. You sound like you know what you want but what is the fun in that? Finding someone how can bring as much to the table as you can is not an easy find. So I say stop looking. Let them come to you, I like how you put yourself out there. I do say that I do believe that it may be difficult to find such a person on a blog site. Best of luck and now, I am sending my love back at you. If you every need an ear just shoot me an email.

Thanks that is sweet.

You had me at "cunty compatriots". Hmm.

Mike, So you do have a list as well although yours is about what you don't want. Mine was mostly about what I want. Good for you for knowing yourself and your experiences. You maybe looking in the wrong places for that relationship...or are you looking for something else? Your ex wife, ex wife's neighbour and a bar pick up. I am not sure if you will find that special person at the bar. It has happened but low stats. The girls you refer to up there sound very shallow. I am no expert at dating, in fact haven't been on a date in over 16 years. So let me know what to expect. All the best to you Mike. I would consider a date if you lived closer. LOL

Ya, I am looking in the wrong places and right places. No regrets though. I dont know what you will experience dating, but have fun and try not to be judgmental of others and hopefully they will not judge you and just have fun. We all just really want to connect and we all have our own way of trying to do it.