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I was supposed to have a date tonight. A first date with a guy I met on Match. His name is Brian which did not thrill me. We only spoke on the phone for a few minutes but I’m not keen on long telephone conversations with strangers so that was ok with me. He came across as a bit reserved but at least he didn’t ask me such questions as “How’s the online thing going for you?” or complain about the woman whose pictures incorrectly portrayed her body proportions. He also agreed to meet somewhere close to my office/apartment so that I would not have to walk too far on my gimp foot (which still hurts by the way, but is definitely getting better). Anyway, despite my lack of enthusiasm to meet him, I used my expensive shampoo/conditioner – saved only for dates or nights out when I want my hair to look extra good. I also wore one of my nicer dresses, even though it looked kind of dumb with my Old Navy flipflops (the only shoes I can wear with my gimp foot). Finally, I wore my sexier underwear. I had NO intention of letting him see me in it, but I feel sexier when I wear it and shouldn’t you feel sexy when you are meeting a man?
Anyway, I left work with lots of unfinished business but didn’t want to keep my date waiting (too long). I immediately regretted my choice of venue when I walked in the door to find the place jammed packed. I figured the restaurant/bar would not be too crowded since it’s a Tuesday night, but I must have momentarily forgotten where I live because any New Yorker is well aware that bars are crowded Monday-Sunday, especially on beautiful sunny days like today. I was a few minutes late and assumed if he was there already, he would be waiting by the door so that I could easily spot him. As there was no lone man standing by the bar, I did a quick walk-around but, again, did not spot any man standing on his own seemingly waiting for his date. I decided to wait outside so that I could catch him on his way in and suggest that we go some place a bit quieter. I waited. I checked my Blackberry. I waited. I sent my sister a text message. I waited. Unfortunately, I had only given him my landline phone so he couldn’t call me if he was running late. After twenty minutes, I left, all set to write the “I was stood up” blog. I was also annoyed because I left some notes from my writing class at work under the assumption that I would not have time to review them this evening anyway. I felt like it was a wasted night. Wasted good shampoo/conditioner; wasted dress; wasted sexy underwear; wasted pile of work that I could’ve stayed later at work to finish; waste of a night I could've worked on my novel; wasted time.
When I got home, there were two messages waiting for me from him. The first was to confirm that we were meeting at 8:00 or 8:30 (7:30 idiot!!) and asking me to call him back and the second was him wondering where I was (I was at the bar waiting for him – idiot!!). Anyway, I called him back and he apologized profusely – kept saying “shucks” which I suppose is a more polite way of saying “Shit”. After a brief conversation, I agreed to meet him tomorrow instead. At first I was going to “punish” him by making him wait until next week but I remembered that I have plans next Monday, Tuesday and Thursday and really like having one night to myself. I hope he’s worth the wait (and the waste).
By the way, Colt 45 asked me if I wanted to go to the Yankee game with him on Saturday. Definitely incentive to give it one more go-around! I do find myself smiling when I get an email from him so, at the very least, it will be a good time. At the very most, the Yankees will win AND we will feel a mutual spark.
Finally, for those of you intrigued by my two hour conversation with Facebook Guy – I was too. However, I am SO excited to be back in touch with him as a friend that I don’t want to even think about the possibility of it turning into more after all of these years. We were never more in the past and if I think about the possibility of that now, the resumed friendship might end up feeling like a disappointment when, in fact, it’s a pretty fabulous thing in and of itself.
Update: I went out with Aw Shucks last night. He didn't say "shucks" once, although he did call the bartender "ma'am". I think he's just awfully polite. We only met for one drink because he *said* he was meeting someone at PC Richards who was going to install the new computer he bought. We didn't spend enough time together for me to determine if we had a good rapport, or get a real sense of his character but I was sort of attracted to him and he made me laugh a few times. He is going to visit his niece in sleep away camp this weekend for visiting day (his sister is the nurse at the camp) and I am going to the Yankee game and need to work on my book anyway, so he said he would call me on Sunday to make plans to get together again. I did not get a true vibe of whether he really wants to see me again or if he was just being "polite" again, but I will let you know. I'd like to go out with him again, but no tears will be shed if he doesn't call.
Douglas - he was wearing jeans - no long shorts/colored socks, and we did not discuss his role as a Federal Agent, so I still don't know if he's really a mailman. If I see him again, I hope to gather more information regarding his career, unless, of course, it's "classified".
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Posted by Meredith on 2008-07-15 21:49:20 | Rating: | Views: 189
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Sounds like you have a few possibilities on the horizon! You are in a much better position and frame of mind than you were a few weeks ago...I guess thats life! How is that book coming along?
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Posted by roe
on 2008-07-16 02:35:47
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"Shucks"?????? Geez, I live in Ky and I don't even hear THAT one anymore......perhaps you could suggest a more hip term for him to use when he is disappointed? How 'bout "Snaps"? LOL!!
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Posted by BlueMoonInMyEye
on 2008-07-16 03:10:52
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Oh god, that must have been so frustrating, going there and then bingo, he ain't there... It reminded me of the time I had to sit in a park until 6:30 at night waiting for Jimmy to show up, but he got lost, blamed me and I went home sobbing.. Men.. :P
I hope it goes well with Colt 45 :o
And I'm really glad that 2 hour conversation went really well!! You should definitely call him again sometime, if you got on that well, I reckon. :) Good friends are worth keeping, after all :P
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Posted by Mezlie
on 2008-07-16 05:50:45
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I'm glad he did not stand you up but he definitely has some communication issues since he screwed up the time and said "shucks". (Kidding) :)
I hope the date goes well and Colt 45 sounds a little more promising. I wish you the best!!
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Posted by prelude2it
on 2008-07-16 07:03:57
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Aw shucks guys, thanks for the comments.
Mezlie - par for the course in the NYC dating world - it's not the first time I've had a "misunderstanding". Sigh.
Blue - you can see FB Guy's picture on my FB page. Not sure if you can access his profile without being his friend though. I can provide any details in a separate email.
Roe - book is coming along but, after my first class, I want to work on the main character more - make her more vulnerable so that my readers pull for her the same way my Thoughts friends pull for me!
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-07-16 10:04:52
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Shucks im glad you cut the man some slack. We as men are not to good with schedules and being places on time. But hey a Yankee game invite makes up for everything.
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Posted by DrDre373
on 2008-07-16 11:30:49
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I know its already been said but...shucks? Is that even spoken by anyone other than Mickey Mouse? So somehow you both had the impression of being stood up, what a movie scenario :P
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Posted by smileforthecamera
on 2008-07-16 11:42:17
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ha ha - i havent heard "shucks"in a while either. He meant well though - - and hey, ya never know. :)
Good luck with all of them!
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Posted by TheAlreadyJaded
on 2008-07-16 14:29:26
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Shucks is a bit old fashioned but maybe he is an old fashioned guy that does not curse in front of women, might be a good sign.
I was stood up once, and stood someone up(long story I will tell one day)once. Neither was fun
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-07-16 14:55:59
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WK - I got the same impression - that he was trying not to curse in front of me. He's a Federal Agent and I have a feeling he's very respectful of women which is definitely a good thing. I just hope he's also fun.
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-07-16 15:00:22
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A federal agent.... could be code for mail man... IRS... hum.... maybe he got stuck in a stake out?
lol just messing I am tired so i am being silly, you have to over look me...
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-07-16 15:12:42
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LOL... Well I think *shucks* is a hell of a lot better then *no worries*... ohhh man, just thinking about *no worries* puts a crinkle in my nose... LOL! Hope you have fun at the Yankees game Sat
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Posted by helen1282
on 2008-07-16 19:14:04
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I once dated a guy who said "cripes" all the time. I just about fell down laughing everytime he said it - I hope this doesn't happen to you! It can be a little awkward trying to stifle your hysterics long enough to explain...
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Posted by BootLady
on 2008-07-17 06:54:37
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Soooo ya got to tell us all later about the colored socks, and if he needed a splash guard hahaha
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-07-17 10:03:44
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I would have been so irritated with the wasted night! I hate getting all dolled-up for nothing.
Have fun at the Yankees game...I give Colt45 brownie points for that one :)
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Posted by nakedtruth
on 2008-07-17 10:18:33
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Oh, and aw Shucks guy sounds like a southern gent! haha Every time you write about him now I hear a southern accent and picture overalls!
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Posted by nakedtruth
on 2008-07-17 10:22:08
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Ha! That's so funny - the truth is, his voices sounds like Matt Damon's in The Departed - I was certain he was from Boston but he actually grew up in the same area as me. If we go out again, I have to ask him about his "accent".
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-07-17 10:24:37
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hmmmmmm on the update, he is a lil a puzzle...PC Ricahrds could have waited so I am not sure about what he is up to...hmmmm ...... test him out on the phone Sunday.
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-07-17 10:50:00
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WK - He wasn't just "going to PC Richards" - he was meeting someone there - he would have had to stand someone up to extend our date. That wouldn't be cool. I don't know - he apologized twice for having to cut it short and mentioned getting together three more times so I am pretty certain it wasn't an excuse, although, cautious - of course.
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-07-17 11:03:48
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I always enjoy your posts and this one was no exception. I get so dismayed by men using "locker room" language when I'm around. Polite would be a nice change ... but much more to be discovered about this man. As always I look forward to additional updates and chapters on your exciting life as a New York City single girl. Peace & Love.
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Posted by ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-07-17 12:14:18
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Oooh...I have a thing for Boston accents. Boston accent and polite!? I like this guy already haha
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Posted by nakedtruth
on 2008-07-17 12:28:50
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Shucks...it took me a little bit to get to read this. You know what, I think that is the Word of the Week - shucks. Loves it, loves it. Ha, ha!
You for sure have lots of options presenting themselves - have fun with it, girl! :)
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Posted by Mandie142
on 2008-07-17 13:31:49
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You are such a busy lady. Good luck with everything. You seem like you've got it all under control. How are you going to fit ONE man into your schedule. Although I think that is the trick, when you find him, he will just fit in perfectly.
:)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-07-19 21:27:17
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