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OMG, I am so pissed off right now. I just went off on Brian with good reason, in my opinion. He emailed me on Monday morning thanking me for my birthday wishes and asking me how things were going. I responded on Monday afternoon. Never heard back from him. It might not have botherered me if I didn't know, from personal experience, that the guy checks his Blackberry CONSTANTLY (morning, noon and night) but I've seen it with my own eyes and, I find it insulting that he can't take two minutes to respond to an email I wrote in response to an email that HE initiated. The guy has a tendency to do this to me (leave me hanging) and, although it pisses me off, I never say anything. I just wait patiently until I hear from him again. Actually, one time after he didn't respond in a week, I sent him an email like "hello??". Once. In over a year. I have walked on fucking eggshells around him the entire time we've known each other and it's just not who I am. So, this morning I sent him the following email:
Had I known "How's things" was a rhetorical question, I wouldn't have bothered to respond.
Jeez, Brian, for a guy with impeccable manners, your email etiquette could use some work.
He writes back immediately:
You know Meredith. This "must respond" right away needs to stop. I WILL respond when I have time. Just because you send me an e-mail message doesn't mean you jump to the top of my to-do list. I'm very busy at the moment.
What a fucking asshole. What's the point of not being needy, not being clingy and pretending to be "oh so cool" when the ONE time I go off on him, he acts like it's a regular occurrence and I'm the one with the problem. What an asshole. And he's the guy for whom I purchased a customized Yankee all star plaque - a real photograph of a bunch of Yankees high fiving after winning one of the American League Championship games. I had them insert Brian's last name on the jersey of one of the players so it looks like he is a Yankee.
I'm so pissed. Part of me wants to respond and point out that I have NEVER made a habit of prodding him to communicate with me and, in fact, have been extremely easy going in that respect. But I won't. For one, he's just not worth it. Second of all, he is incapable of acknowledging blame or taking responsibility for ANYTHING and finally, he's "very busy at the moment" and I wouldn't want to clog his inbox.
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Posted by Meredith on 2008-06-18 11:17:03 | Rating: | Views: 222
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Kick his ass!
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Posted by LadiLucifer
on 2008-06-18 11:22:47
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You have every right to be pissed off. What a jerk. You deserve better. It sounds like something my Brian would say. I would not give him the benefit of responding to that. Did you already give him his present?
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Posted by prelude2it
on 2008-06-18 11:36:17
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No. Even if I never hear from again, I will though. I'll send it to his office. I already paid for it and it's customized and, besides, to do so makes me look like the better person (which I am). I guess if we are "friends", we will make up but I don't feel the need to apologize and I don't think he knows how.
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-06-18 11:40:30
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Yeah some people do that to make them selves feel better, they will spin the table on you and make you feel like it is your fault. Had things worked out and had you gotten married, can you imagin the fights... everything in one way or another would have been your fault.
Look at yourself... look at who you are, look around you... look at other women your age... you I would bet if you put every woman in the same age bracket would be easily in the upper 25% so you have your stuff going on much better than 75% of the women your age... Screw him you dont need it. I know it is hard, but for your self respect ya got distance your self. You can still be friends, but don't let it suck the light out of you.
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-18 12:30:03
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Meridith this man is not worth it
On a far less important note my fellow Yankee fan: Those plaques are blashemy!!!(spelling) The Yankees NEVER have names on their jerseys so the jerseys I see like that or things like that are no good! Leave names on jerseys to the lesser teams. LOL
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-06-18 12:42:19
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PUNCH HIM IN THE SNOTBOX!!!! I'll come there & kick his ass for you! What a jerk! You don't need that that shit from him. Send him the present & forget him. You don't deserve to be treated like that! Oh, I'm gonna cause him a world of pain! Grrr!
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Posted by Mandie142
on 2008-06-18 12:49:25
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He knows how to apologize but probably refuses to let his guard down enough to do it. I can't believe the resemblance in the two. I have often felt, he cannot apologize. I think you are doing the right thing by sending him his present regardless of his actions.
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Posted by prelude2it
on 2008-06-18 13:07:30
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So WK, now you are calling my thoughtful gift "no good"? Now I feel even worse thinking I got him such a cool gift. Thanks!
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-06-18 13:31:29
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Meri - What the H is up with men and not being able to say "I'm sorry, I know I should have responded sooner/called earlier/came by on time... etc."
It is fucking bull shit... and not to stereotype... but my ex was exactly the same... FUCKING MEN... Why do we feel so incomplete without them... and then... more often then not... feel miserable when we are with one, and they disappoint us time after time after time.... UGH!
Again.. trying not to stereoytpe... just speaking from past experiences...
Good Luck to you... Man -- this blog even hit a nerve with me!!!!
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Posted by helen1282
on 2008-06-18 14:35:24
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Wow helen I know who to call when I need someones ass kicked lol
Meredith ya got to smile for me even if it is a weak one and not real it's a start. You do not need him to be happy.... the gift you bought him, you put alot of time and effort into. The thought behind the gift is what means the most and it just shows you are thoughtfull and careing. You went well out of your way to find something special and unique. I could be so lucky to have a woman put that much thought into a gift for me. You are truely special do not let this or him get you down.
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-18 14:47:01
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Thank you, Douglas (thank you all).
The truth is, I WAS snarky with him. I didn't have to be a bitch about it but I was pissed off and I think I am entitled to uncage my evil twin every so often. I am willing to apologize for my "tude". What bothers me is that he spun it around and made me feel like I was wrong to expect him to respond to me sooner and that I make a habit of expecting to be at the top of his "to do list" and "it must stop". That's SO not the case and it bothers me to think he sees it that way.
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-06-18 14:57:48
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snarky lol that was cute I have not heard that word in a long time
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-18 15:38:10
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And what's more, I might have been "snarky" but he was MEAN. He just showed me who he is today and, for once, I believe him. I don't deserve to be spoken to that way but ANYONE.
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-06-18 15:50:36
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What a b$%%$%d!! He is a real jerk! You deserve to be treated better than that. You should throw the gift through the front window of his apartment. See how he likes that!
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Posted by Fancie
on 2008-06-18 17:16:03
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That is such a smack in the face! I'd love to bitch slap him myself!
I really hope this was the last dealings you have with him! He has no excuse short of someone being in the hospital or a real death to act that way.
It really sounds like he loves having you on that back burner and I'd refuse to sit there for him!
I know it's a hard thing to do but I would cut all ties at this point! He is gonna treat you like crap now and forever just because he thinks he can. He obviously knows how much you like him and now he is just using it against you.
Don't respond to that email. Block him if you can. Meredith you can do soooo much better! He can't be THE ONE!
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-06-18 19:40:21
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Please do not be the first to make contact with this very self centered ego maniac and even though you did not ask my opinion, I am begging you, I do not care how much you spent, dont give him that cool gift...please! Yet, If you do, I will still love and support you, not support you financially, of course, not that you need it, you seem to be pretty successful on your own, but I will be here for you emotionally and it appears, its pretty crowded in your fan club, standing room only!
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Posted by roe
on 2008-06-19 00:38:00
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Mer - he needs a big tongue lashing from you. How dare he respond in that way. You have been more than accommodating to him, and you don't leave a Friend hanging.
Too busy ... well whats wrong with responding with a
"HI, real busy at the moment. But I'll get back to you."
At least Mer he may start pissing you off enough that you let him close his own door!
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-06-19 03:42:47
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Yeah, what these other guys here are saying is right. You need to give him a verbal ass kicking. I had a feeling it'd end up this way.. He's being a jerk, he deserves what he gets, and he certainly doesn't deserve you.
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Posted by Mezlie
on 2008-06-19 05:33:00
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Sounds like my father. You dont need a person like that in your life.
Me personally, I would keep the gift you got for him, use some white-out and insert my own name on it! LOL
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Posted by 1221dol0306
on 2008-06-19 09:20:52
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Meri you don't deserve to be treated like that. I wouldn't waste another breath on that man. Sure everyones allowed a bad day now and then. He's so self centered he doesn't have a clue. May his blackberry become lodged in any one of his orifice's of your choosing.
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Posted by pitapie50
on 2008-06-19 12:48:24
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What an asshat. That was a definite dick response. I just read all your blogs-- thanks for helping me kill a work day cuz I have a hangover and it's been a tough one! :)
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Posted by TheAlreadyJaded
on 2008-06-19 16:59:13
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Meredith you are much to beautiful and nice to put up with this kind of insensitive rude behavior. I'm so sorry Brian doesn't see how lucky and blessed he is to have your friendship. Sending along lots of hugs and caring thoughts. Peace.
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Posted by ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-06-19 21:30:18
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I can't believe this guy! I would send that gift to his office with a note attached saying, "Don't bother thanking me...I know how "busy" you are." If he has any sort of heart or conscience he will feel incredibly guilty, as he should!
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Posted by nakedtruth
on 2008-06-20 00:54:49
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u have every right to be mad at him...i cant believe the guy. he doesnt know what he's letting go...
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Posted by angelwings
on 2008-06-23 02:13:57
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Wow. What a jerkface. I had a different impression of this guy from your blogs...but now I'm glad you two aren't together. You're toooooooooooo good, Mer.
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Posted by BitterSweetheart
on 2008-06-25 04:08:05
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