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I don't have much going on right now, but it's been almost a week since my last post and I feel that an update is in order. I had a really good weekend and, since it started on Thursday afternoon, it was long weekend as well. I left work early on Thursday and met Prelude2it! She was visiting family in New Jersey and, since we've started a friendship outside of Thoughts, we thought it would be cool to meet in person. In case you were wondering, she is just as nice in person as she appears in print and I am so happy to have had the opportunity to meet her face-to-face. We met in Hoboken where she was finishing a pedicure and we walked up and down the main strip - Washington Street. We stopped into Dunkin Donuts for some ice coffee and Prelude got to observe me bitch at Alan for accepting my half-assed offer to email a client from out of the office. (I assumed he would decline my offer to handle the matter since I was on a mini-vacation but he (not so pleasantly) surprised me. I gave my Blackberry (Alan) the middle finger but completed the task as quickly as possible. I felt incredibly rude but I don't think Prelude held it against me, at least I hope not. Eventually, we made our way to a Mexican restaurant where, over a pitcher of sangria, we shared two servings of guacamole and separate orders of beef and shrimp fajitas. As I had taken a client out for a lunch only a couple of hours earlier, I felt like a fat pig before we even started eating but that's never stopped me before. Anyway, it felt very much like I was with an old friend as we talked over dinner. Of course, we bitched about the stuff we routinely bitch about in our blogs, but we also chartered new territory and got to know each other better. In a nutshell, it was lots of fun. (I hope to post a picture of us soon.)
On Friday, I took the train to New Haven, Connecticut to visit my friend Dee who recently started a graduate program at The University of Southern Connecticut. Also visiting that weekend were our friends Dan and Laurie and their two year old daughter, Madeline (Maddy). I've known these guys since college and we always have a fun time together. Laurie and I lived together in Hoboken for a few years after college and, at the time, she had a boyfriend (asshole Mike) and Dan had a big (unreturned) crush on me. It threw us for a loop when they fell in love and got married but they are perfect for each other and I couldn't be happier for them. On Friday night, we just hung out at Dee's and drank some wine/beer, pigged out on hummus and chips and watched the Yankee/Met game. Dee's roommate shared disturbing information with me, namely, that one in four people in New York City has genital herpes. Nice. Then she told me a story about a girl who went on a date with a guy she met online who forced her to give him a blowjob in his car. If she was trying to deter me from dating, she did a pretty good job. Then she flashed me her boobs and told me she'd "do me". Dee said she's just nutty but Dan, Laurie and I were thinking (out loud) that perhaps she is bi-curious. Not that there is anything wrong with that but I have enough trouble mastering my own heterosexual relationships; I couldn't possibly handle swinging both ways. Anyway, on Saturday, Dee took us on a tour through New Haven and we walked around the Yale campus pretending to be alumni. We ate at the "Educated Burgher" and made jokes about the spelling of "burgher". The mature folks we are, we split the word into two, namely, "Burg" and "Her", self-defined the word "Burg" as "Do" or "Screw" and came up with funny ways to use our new word in a sentence - We'd point at the waitress and say "I wonder if the guys at Yale want to "BURG her". "Dan, she's hot, do you want to "BURG her"?? Totally stupid but it provided us with hours of fun. Then we went to the oldest bar in New Haven where we ordered a few rounds of beer and the bartender practically spilled an entire pint on me "by accident". Then we went to an Italian festival and out for pizza where I was mocked endlessly for making more of a mess than Maddy. Finally, we made it back to Dee's house and called it a night.
Sunday, we took Maddy walking on the beach. First we had lunch at a restaurant/bar along the water. None of us had cash and hoped to pay our own share with a credit card. The restaurant wouldn't charge us separately so we were left to our own vices to figure out how much we all owed. (In view of the discrepancy in the amount/cost of what we each ate/drank, it wasn't fair to simply split the bill evenly.) Once again proving that we are clearly not "Ivy League" material, we spent a good portion of an hour figuring out the tab. Finally, we walked along the beach and complained about how hot it was. (None of us wore bathing suits.) Maddy refused to take a poop and, since she apparently had to go, she was miserable and sweating. She looked so uncomfortable but did not heed her mother's advice to "take a god damn poop and you'll feel better!!!". After the beach, Dee dropped me off at the train station and I got home at 7, just in time to write a few pages of my novel, read a few a blogs on Thoughts, check my email, unpack and wind down before calling it a night.
Now that I have described my weekend plans in excruciating detail, I will get down to the business of men since it seems to be an ongoing theme in my blogs. I hadn't heard from my date from last week and assumed he had changed his mind about wanting to see me again. He called me last night though but, since I did not expect to hear from him again, the call caught me off guard and I let voicemail pick up. I had to listen to the message twice and still cannot figure out what he said. The first half of the message seems to suggest that he wants to go out for drinks on Thursday night. The second half of the message seems to suggest that he wants me to go to a going away party he is throwing for a friend of his who lives in my neighborhood and is moving out of town. I could not glean from the message whether the invitation for the drink and the invite to the party were for the same night. In any event, as host of the party, I assume that he would probably not have much time to hang out with me. I would think for a second date, it would make more sense to hang out alone and continue to get to know each other but, then again, what do I know? Anyway, he waited almost a week to call me so I was in no rush to call him back last night. I am still not sure whether we have romantic chemistry, but I will call him back later.
I have also been communicating with some guys online, although no one noteworthy as of yet. Dee had gone out with a guy she met online who, coincidentally, was matched with me as well. She said he was nice and attractive, and, although they did not hit it off, she thought he might be my type and encouraged me to meet him. Two other guys who were matched with Dee are now happily dating one of her friends so I decided it might not hurt to pursue the guy. His profile was interesting, he was attractive, what the hell, right? One problem and this might be difficult to explain via email: On the site we use, each person picks a user name which becomes his/her "handle". Although the profile itself does not depict the person's user name, when you click on the profile, you are linked to the individual's web address which includes the user name. For example, if my User Name was Meredith (which it is not - I was a bit more creative than I was on Thoughts), my profile web address would look something like http://www.insertnameofdatingsite.com/profile/showprofile.as px?pc=12&uid=eDT6ZqntXbg3d&handle=meredith=Connections&rn=1692746814860&pi=0. This guy's handle is http://www.insertnameofdatingsite.com/profile/showprofile.aspx?pc=12&uid=eDT6ZqntXbg%3d&handle=iamfuckinggod&tp=Connections&rn=1692746814860&pi=0. I find it hard to believe that the dating site would approve such an inappropriate user name, however, more importantly, I am not sure I am interested in meeting a guy who thinks he is “a fucking god”! Dee said her first impression of him was not that he was at all narcissistic or full of himself, but how else can you explain his choice of user name?
I still have not heard from Brian and it is starting to sink in that our friendship might really be over. Although he certainly acted like an asshole and I know that I did not deserve to spoken to that way, I am having a lot of trouble coming to terms with the fact that he is not who I thought he was. I thought he was a great guy; a guy I truly wanted in my life even if it wasn't quite the relationship I desired. I also thought he truly cared about me, even if it wasn't in the way I wanted. Although he wasn't the warmest guy on the planet, he was never mean to me before; he never raised his voice; and based on his past behavior, I was always pretty secure that he thought I was a good egg and was glad I was in his life. But being that I haven't heard from him, I guess my assumptions were way off. I am having difficulty dealing with the reality that, based on the tone of his email, I apparently annoy the crap out of him; that this single email exchange has become the end-all-be-all of our relationship; that Brian feels no remorse for being so unnecessarily mean to me; and that he doesn't seem to care whether he ever speaks to me, much less sees me, again. I am not a person who can easily move on. It takes me a long time to develop faith in a person and build up trust. Once I do, it is particularly painful when that same person lets me down and proves that my faith and trust were misplaced. I am not sure how long it will take to wrap my mind around this one.
You know I hate to end my posts on sad note so, rather than conclude with Brian "stuff", I will say that I FINALLY spoke to Kevin today. (The 28 year old from my Kissing Fool post. ) I think enough time has passed that it was not awkward. In fact, I can't stop thinking about how cute he is and how easy it is to talk to him. If I am ok with dating a guy 9 years older me, is it so bad to consider dating a guy 8 years younger? (If I can get past the whole "he works with me" part?) Food for thought.
Anyway, that's all I've got, folks. For a girl who claims to not have much going on, I certainly managed to put pen to paper, didn't I?
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Posted by Meredith on 2008-06-30 14:45:55 | Rating: | Views: 207
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Well good to have you back... I am glad you ladies had fun, and you enjoyed your trip.
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-30 15:00:34
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I was glad to see your blog, I was going to ask how the rest of your weekend went. I had a wonderful time in NJ.
I don't know what to say about Brian other than men are really stubborn! When Brian and I had words, it took him as long as 2 or 3 weeks to pick up the phone. Everyone's schedule is different unfortunately.
I hope the friend match works out. Maybe, he didn't realize that I A MF could be interpreted that way and he meant I am f as in Frank. Who knows, he may not have been thinking when he did that.
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Posted by prelude2it
on 2008-06-30 16:13:07
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Hey, that's so cool that you & Prelude were able to catch up & meet each other outside of Thoughts. :)
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Posted by Mandie142
on 2008-06-30 17:28:53
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Sounds like a great few days. And you guys met! Fantastic.
Thanks for the update, I always enjoy reading your posts :)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-06-30 17:56:08
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Meredith -- So enjoyed reading about your weekend. Written, as usual, in your warm inviting writing style. How nice that you and prelude were able to meet and spend a little time together. Wishing you a great week. Peace.
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Posted by ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-06-30 23:29:35
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OH my God, you two met!!! That's sooo fantastic!!! :D I was smiling ear to ear when i read that!!
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Posted by angelwings
on 2008-07-01 01:02:39
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Sounds like you've been having fun! Old friends are the best and making new ones is so much fun! I think it's great that you were able to meet Prelude face-to-face.
I hope you enjoy a great week!
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Posted by BitterSweetheart
on 2008-07-01 03:39:39
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I'm so glad you had a great weekend! :D You really needed it, by the sounds of it.
Also, I'm think your suspicions about you and Brian's friendship may be right. But hey, you can't predict the future...
And this Kevin guy doesn't sound half bad! I don't think the age should really be much of an issue, you're both adults, it's just more a matter of personal morals.
Take care, and good luck! Great to hear an update. :)
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Posted by Mezlie
on 2008-07-01 05:22:42
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Prelude had already told me you had met and she said almost the same thing, word for word, as you did about her. So I can only conclude you got on famously. I'm so glad about that as you are my two favourite, 30 somethings in the whole world. I had to laugh at your 'poo' explanation, as all my life I have been plagued by not being able to 'perform' in public loos, so I have a lot of compassion for your friend. Your weekend sounded great and has inspired me to make a new post as I have been too busy since my return. Great, as ever, to hear from you.
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Posted by overthehillandfar...
on 2008-07-01 08:58:43
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E - thank you - I think you are pretty awesome too!
Does anyone have any input regarding the guy who thinks he's a "f**ing god"? Am I the only one who finds that disturbing?
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-07-01 11:06:37
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Sounds like a great weekend!
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Posted by TheAlreadyJaded
on 2008-07-01 11:49:15
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As I read about the guy's choice of user name I thought he's just revealing and showing you his true colors. Not someone I would want to talk with or get to know, but to each their own. Peace.
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Posted by ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-07-01 14:17:56
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Oh that is a bit much... any guy who calls himself that has issues. He may end up being that guy who talks about himself in 3rd person.
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-07-01 15:40:03
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I would not be happy with anyone who described himself that way. Humorous or not, it's an odd choice for a first impression.
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Posted by overthehillandfar...
on 2008-07-01 16:10:34
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Pedicure, Dunkin Donuts Coffee, Mexican? Next time, I'm in...call me :) I had my 22 year old birthday party at Bahama Mama's. i still have the t-shirt and straw hat....good times :)
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Posted by LuckyLuci
on 2008-07-01 23:10:45
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btw, the yankee/mets game was a nail biter on sunday...but here's to our teams, salute! :)
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Posted by LuckyLuci
on 2008-07-02 00:18:02
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LuckyLuci - I have had plenty of good times in Bahama Mamas! At least I think so - I've usually been too drunk to remember. Next time, we'll call you to join us :)
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-07-02 09:46:06
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I'm adamantly opposed to any man who even thinks it's funny to have a screen name like that. My vote is "hell, no"!!
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Posted by BlueMoonInMyEye
on 2008-07-03 11:18:23
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