View Blog    Problems, problems, problems. So I just thought I'd start one of these things.. I mean, why not? Im kinda new to these things, so im not sure if anyone will actually read this anyway O.o I have this really annoying problem i was wondering if anyone wanted to help me with. One thing before I get started with this stuff. Im bisexual, so if you have a problem with that I suggest you get lost before I tell you what I really think of you. So Ive had this good friend for a few years now, and we're great mates. And then I started to get feelings for her, like, other than 'just friends' so after months and months of confusion, I told a good friend of mine and she convinced me to tell her. Just before i told her, the good friend of mine told me that the girl I like told her she might have feelings for me, so that was my motivation for telling her in the end, and she took it really well. She didnt really say how she felt about it or anything, but my good friend ive mentioned before told me that this girl loved me. But when i told her, she said nothing about liking me, and she avoided me for a few days, before going back to what we where like before all this. Then, i got a bit.. upset with my mate for telling me the girl i liked loved me when obviously she didnt. She said she wasnt lying it was all true, so then i said well im getting fed up of this shit and nothing happeneing, and she said dont worry it will. I begged her to tell me what it meant and she confessed that the girl i like had told her that she was going to tell me how she really felt about me, but then nothing happened which just pissed me off even more. The thing is, i cant say anything to this girl without feeling embarresed, or getting my other mate into trouble. It sucks. And then my friend told me the reason the girl i like didnt tell me, is cas she thinks where 'happy as we are'. But where not. Im really stuck in the middle to be honest. Help and comments? : ( x Oh, and nothing homophobic please. Cas I dont really care about your shit. Edit: thanks for all your help. What Im going to do, is just maybe take it easy, and see what happens, unless someone has a better solution? x Thanks again x     Posted by MentallyxDeranged on 2007-11-12 12:16:37 | Rating: | Views: 105     Email This to a Friend Friend's Email *    Friend's Name*    Your Name*    Security code*    Refresh Image                 Print This Blog Post     Bookmark: Delicious  Digg  Reddit  Facebook  StumbleUpon    Permalink:      Blog Comments    I agree with Bullseye. If you push it you're going to end up pushing her away. I'd bide your time and see what happens. Posted by  Whitters  on 2007-11-12 12:33:06     Im have been in a similar situation with one of my friends/coworkers...Your feelings of frustration, confusion, and being "stuck" are very uncomfortable...But I am sure you have done the right thing by getting your feelings out in the open and letting you friend know so there is no doubt. I imagine your friend (if she has never experimented or truly had feelings for the same sex) is more than likely shocked, scared, and more than anything confused about what to do or say to you. I am willing to bet she is evaluating her own sexuality and feelings towards being with you on a different level...Keep me updated and the best of luck...Regardless of what happens, you will have the satisfaction knowing that you tried but remember you still have your friend regardless if you two move foward...Best of luck! Posted by  fighterchick  on 2007-11-12 17:09:52     Has this girl had bisexual relations before? I think that would make the biggest difference. If not then going really slowly is good, in my mind. On the other hand, I've always said that if I was ever going to be with a woman (and I do fantasize about it trust me) then I would have to get really drunk and she'd have to be really aggressive. It's sort of like being a virgin. You want it but you don't know how to do it. Saying the words before the deed is somehow more difficult; what if you get into it and you change your mind. You've said all these sweet things and.. well they're not working out. You obviously have a friendship. But the connection you want is deeper. Being intimate on a sexual level with someone that you care about somehow seems to make it special. That's sort of what intimate means; knowing each other very well in a special way. Personally I'd have a few drinks together. Not to get sloshed but somehow it can loosen up the whole thing. Get girl silly. Love is love no matter where it comes from. (well not your dog, that's not nice....) Posted by  sarahsjewel  on 2008-03-06 20:02:26  Would you like to comment?     (Maximum characters: 5000)     You have characters left.      Security code:                                                     Refresh Image

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