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NC-17.
Good Morning gentle readers.
I know that some of you are confused about the concept of a girl being sent to me as a "gift". I am guilty of using imprecise language. The girl was sent to me by her mentor for basic evaluation and training. It is a very great honor, as is "gifting" an already trained submissive, but the two are distinct.
The basic piece behind "gifting" a person to another person is the concept that you cannot "give" what you do not already posses. I consider this to be an "edge" scene in all cases. as people interact differently with each other. Even though it is a (relatively) common fantasy among submissives, it can never be casually done. I personally would not do it with anyone not under "formal" collar. This is not something you do with a casual play-partner. One can touch some VERY deep psychological buttons here.
There are really several elements that need to be considered. First and foremost: do you really know that you (as the Dom/Domme) want to do this? As I just pointed out, the submissive in question really needs to feel the trust and security that she is "owned" by you, and that you are not going to just casually give her away and not take her back. If she is going to serve another, in whatever capacity you are giving her in, then she needs to know that she's doing something you WANT. If she reacts as she is trained, if she enjoys the experience, then you cannot show jealousy or disapproval if she is what you sent he out to be: an un-inhibited pleasure slave doing what she was trained to do. She is still "yours" even when serving another. She's your responsibility. And she is dong this for YOUR pleasure and pride in ownership. If you can't handle doing this, if you have even a hint of hesitation, then DON'T do it.
The second element is the person you are giving her to. Is that person safe? Are they experienced enough to perform whatever scene they intend for your submissive? Will they respect any restrictions you put in to place (it is NOT the submissive's place to enforce your rules in scene, even if you are not present)? Do they KNOW what it is they are receiving? I've heard the analogy of giving someone the keys to your prized Ferrari...in fact I'd say it's close, but not quite. A Ferrari is a factory car. Think of it more as giving a friend the keys to a one-of-a kind sports car that you built yourself from solid Gold, with your own hands. Your sub is a creation of their own, inherent qualities and YOUR training and influence. She will react like no one else in the world. She is unique. The person you gift her to needs to know this and respect that bond even if they are allowed to share in it for awhile.
Third is a question of is the submissive ready? Does she understand what is being done? Why are you giving her away for this service? I explain it like this: In my house, a guest gets only the very best I have to offer. I do not serve them cheep wine, I do not serve them fast-food, and I do not make them sit on the floor. An honored guest is given ONLY the very finest things. If a guest is of the temperament and ability to handle a slave-girl properly, then that girl must be ready, trained, and a source of immense pride in ownership. I expect her to know what is expected, how to react, and be entirely confident in her training and her how abilities/desirability. She has to face this with an attitude of "I am the most Wonderful thing in the house", not "I'm something worthless that's being used". If she's still a novice, she's not going to be offered for this. As always: a submissive cannot fail. In this task especially she has to really feel like she can't.
When it works, it works fantastically. I can count the times I've done this one one hand. It is special. It is an honor to the person receiving the gift, the person giving the gift, and the "gift" herself. I may never do it again...it's not something you really can plan until you meet the right combination of people.
The "gift" I received last Friday was really not a "gift", but a potential candidate. I would never consider abusing a true "gift". So...I was imprecise in my language. But she was sent, and there is a very flattering honor to that.
-Manasseh
The Most Generous of Kings
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Posted by Manasseh on 2009-10-07 14:12:11 | Rating: | Views: 44
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