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Life is Choices

Hi guys, whoever you may be. This is my very first ever blog. Except on myspace. But I only used it twice, and it was over a year ago, so I hardly count it.

So here we are. I'm actually not feeling so laugh-y today, but I titled my blog based on how I would like to feel. Kind of like if you wake up feeling blah, you dress up and you feel better. Well, I am sick and vomiting daily with early pregnancy sickness. We are actually finished with our first trimester tomorrow, but my body has not yet gotten the memo to chill on the ill. So, I'm kind of really stressed and very sick, but I thought blogging could be therapeutic. I should mention that I am THRILLED to be pregnant with our second child, and I am infinitely thankful for a healthy pregnancy!

On the bright side, my business The Wedding Singer Agency is taking off, and I am very proud of it! We provide professional musicians for live events, such as weddings, art gallery openings, and corporate events. Our locations are Southern California / Los Angeles, and New York / New Jersey.

Also, my super-awesome husband has a website full of really great self-help material, called Change the Tape. For those of you born after 1990, you may not know what a tape is! But it is what we used to play instead of CDs or mp3s. The idea is that we all have a constant audio-stream playing in our heads, more often than not, criticizing ourselves. Saying horrible, destructive things to ourselves that no one else would EVER say to us. Well, YOU are in control of your thoughts. You have the power to change this audio-stream... to change the tape! The first step is awareness. Becoming aware that you can CHOOSE to dwell on a thought or not.

Last night I was sick to my stomach, had vomited a couple of times, and had not accomplished half of what I had intended to do yesterday. To make matters worse, I had publicly declared that I was going to wash and dry AND PUT AWAY all the laundry in the entire house. In addition to that, I was going to clean out my closet and take my unwanted items to a donation center.

Well, midnight rolled around and my closet door was still open with clothes spilling out, and there was still a mountain of clean clothes in the living room. But I knew the later I stayed up, the sicker I would be. So I bade my husband goodnight, and crawled in bed. Then I lay there thinking, "He's mad at me for not getting the laundry done." I wasted a good five minutes of my life before I realized I was CHOOSING to feel bad psychologically, which was making me feel even worse physically! Maybe he was mad, maybe he wasn't. But I realized I had only two constructive choices: 1) Get up and go talk to him, or 2) Assume that he is not mad, fill my head with images of joy, relax, and go to sleep. I did the latter.

Life is choices. Choosing your thoughts is probably the most important choice of your life, and you make this choice every day. Every minute, in fact. And you don't have to be perfect at it. But the more aware you are, the better for you!

I got this message from Wayne Dyer's audio book: You'll See It When You Believe It. It has really been helping me lately. Hope that either this book or my blog my help you, too! It feels a lot better to feel good.

I'll see you soon, for my next post. :-)

Lizzy-Loo