If you have been with him for a while than i suggest talking to him, he might just be nervous, unsure or insecure himself or gay lol jk. Its always better to talk about it even if its akward at first. Ask what he wants or likes even if you think you know, then tell him what you like cause he def doesnt know. Or you can just tell him to take control and fuck you. My gf has done that to me before and it rocks. Good luck....and if none of that works, dump that pussy