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Okay...first time doing this, but I really need an outlet. I work full-time w/a lot of overtime lately, married and have two kids (10 & 6). My hubby has a fulltime job but has jumped around from job to job over the past 5 years. It would average out to a new job every 9 months, and is making no more many than when he started. I say all that because we cannot get along right now, to save our lives. I have always made more money and carried the family's insurance, which has never bothered me until recently when I got a huge promotion. He was and has not been supportive since. I do try and understand that could be hard for him to accept as a man, but I do not rub it in or make light of it to him.
Lately, he and his friend started a new company and he works crazy hours, but is supposed to be off on Sunday's and Monday's. Well, that's rarely happening. And when it does, my hubby sleeps all freakin day on Sunday (when I'm off too). HE SLEEPS ALL FRIGGIN DAY up to eat and take bathroom breaks. So basically we see each other for a few mins in the evening and talk trough emails and text messages. I feel like he doesn't want to do anything with us because he's either at work, home too late, or sleepin. He just doesn't make time for us. It has gotten so bad that I recently told him I didn't even feel like he loved me anymore. Just going through the motions. And if I say anything about spending time with us or his sleeping habits, I'M THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM!! I'm not being understanding of what he's going through, I'm not trying to help him adjust. How can I when I'm doing everything else around here?
We've been to counseling before, but I'm always the one who schedules it, etc. and I've asked him too, but he doesn't think things are bad. I don't know how to express to him, just how bad, lonely, sad, angry I feel. I guess I should just schedule and get on with it? I'M JUST SO ANGRY AND FRUSTED, I saw this site and read some folk's posting I thought I could share............. |
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Posted by LRHW07 on 2008-02-12 22:55:59 | Rating: | Views: 71
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Wow, it sounds like you are an amazing lady - juggling two children, a husband, and a big job! I'm young, but women like you have inspired me since I was a child to know that I really can be as successful as any man.
That said, it sounds like you feel like you're pulling all the weight and your husband is kind of cruising along and not putting effort into your family. I bet he feels really stressed about being inadequate (power-wise, financially, whatever!) He is still a man!
Whenever my mom is mad at my dad, she gives him a big hug and tells him she loves him. Even if he's still mad, at least he smiles!
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Posted by peace_seeker
on 2008-02-12 23:12:17
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My wife and I are going thru a hard time as well. Your husband needs to listen to you because he is your husband. You need to tell him how you are feeling in strait terms. (maybe he dosn't catch on quickly-we are like that)Get some counciling for yourself to help with your piece of mind. keep blogging (it does help)
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Posted by theotherjim
on 2008-02-13 09:12:15
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