Dear reader , have you ever carried a torch for someone ? Desired them from afar and kept your distance for fear of scaring them away . The weeks become months , become years and you come to the realisation that they do not really appreciate you even as a human being , let alone as a friend . And forget being their lover . The one time you did wastedly hook up , they got rid of you afterwards so quickly the ground barely touched your feet . And proceeded to not talk to you for  a couple of years . You try  to just be friends  but it always about them . Always . They never once consider that maybe you need a friend with a non judgemental ear .