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All these different thoughts are running through my head. My boyfriend cheated on me. And it hurt me so much. This may sound weird, but it is not the cheating that hurt me the most, but the lying about the cheating, because we are not only lovers, we are also friends, best friends. We were friends first. We were best friends for two years before we started dating.

I asked him if something was going on. I asked him if he were cheating on me and he said no. When I finally found out I was so disappointed, I never felt so betrayed in my whole life. I found a message on his cell phone. He was asleep already. I stayed up all night, crying. When I woke up, I just asked him to leave. I through his car keys and his cell phone and his wallet at him and asked him to leave. He wanted to know what was wrong. I knew that he knew what was wrong, and he knew that I knew that he knew.

He refused to leave. He said he loved me and that he had already ended it with her because he loved me too much. I forgave him, because I love him. And now, months later I found out that he didn’t end it with her till after I found out. I don’t know what I should do. We grew much closer in the past few months, and our relationship got more serious, and now I find out he lied to me.

We are together now for a year and ten months and for the first time in our relationship he invited me to visit his parents with him. We are so happy now, and I don’t know if I should bring this up. It happened months ago. Should I just leave it? Or should I tell him that I know?
Posted by Katryn on 2008-05-07 13:46:46 | Rating: n/a | Views: 72


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Posted by
pitapie50
on 2008-05-07 14:12:30
 
You can't just toss your heartache out the window, you're still hurt. You need to talk to him about it. You deserve answers, he has to allow you time to heal. Kiddo if he can't do that hes not worth your time.

Everyone deserves being treated with respect and dignity. Relationships should always be based on honesty, if its not, then its no relationship.

Good luck to you :)
 
 

Posted by
angelwings
on 2008-05-08 03:37:20
 
I think you need to talk to him about it. I'm really sorry you're hurting. I know what you mean about the lying hurting more than the cheating. Talk to him about it, communication is really important. And like you said, you've been best friends before you started going out. So confront him. Like Pita said, you deserve the answers.
 
 

Posted by
Katryn
on 2008-05-08 04:16:33
 
Thank you for your advice Pita & Angel.
 
 

Posted by
jessfreethinkin
on 2008-05-08 11:20:25
 
LET ME JUST SAY I AM MARRIED AND TO HAVE YOUR HUSBAND CHEAT ON YOU IS HEART BREAKING SO I UNDERSTAND YOUR PAIN EVEN AT A BOYFRIEND /GIRLFRIEND LEVEL. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND FOLLOW YOUR HEART BUT REMEMBER YOU DO NOT HAVE TO SETTLE FOR JUST ANYTHING, THAT IS WHAT "SOME" OF THESE MEN FAIL TO REALIZE WE CAN FIND ANOTHER WHO WILL TREAT US 10 TIMES BETTER WE STAY BECAUSE WE CARE AND WANT IT TO WORK. I THINK I AM ABOUT TO GO POST A BLOG. LOL!!!
 
 


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