Once my little man turned 6 I thought that things would be slightly different, in regards to his behaviour, and yes I was right. But I never expect this.
In the last few weeks he has decided he is going to throw temper tantrums when he doesn’t get his own way, or if he doesn’t like a decision that has been made. Now when I say temper tantrums I mean the kicking and screaming and throwing himself on to the floor, the whole nine yards.
The fist time he did this you could have blown me over with a feather, because it was so unlike him. I know that my son isn’t perfect and we have our moments, but this was a first.
So the first thing I could think of to do to stop this was to ‘mother’ him as only mothers can do. You know the “there, there, now this isn't how a big boy is, be a good boy for mummy and stop that.” All said with dripping sweetness. And yes it worked the first time. Then he had another tantrum and another. Now the first time it work and the second time as well, but by the third time, I do not like this new ploy of his. As a result I changed tactic, and went with the “Please don’t do this; you are not going to get what you want behaving like this.” Yes he stopped.
Well the other day he decided to push his luck once more and throw another tantrum. Well that was it I had had enough and as soon as he threw himself on to the floor and started scream, kicking and banging the floor, so did I.
Yes I got down on the floor and banged and screamed right along next to him. He got louder I got louder, he banged harder I banged harder. By this time my husband and daughter had come into the room to see what was going on, and had anyone walked in and saw this they would have thought that they had entered the funny farm. So he stops and starts to wail, so I did too. Everything he did I did, he stormed off up the stairs I did too, he slammed his bedroom door shut, I did too (his door not mine). He started screaming out “stop mum I don’t like it” (something they teach them at school), and so did I, but changing the mum to his name. Finally he stopped all together.
I got up and asked him if what he did got him what he wanted, and of course he said no. I then replied well not only did it not get what you wanted, but it also meant that for the next 15 mins he would have to spend it in his room. Alone. And this is by no means fun, as he doesn’t have any toys in his room.
Now let me go back a bit here, while I was mimicking my son with his behaviour I was also trying so hard not to laugh. I mean there was my husband and daughter laughing at me as I am doing this, and I keep telling myself don’t laugh don’t laugh, and I didn’t. But as soon as I got back down stairs, let the laughter roll on, I was laughing so much I had tears running down my eyes.
I will point this out, 1 week later no tantrums.
Phew (as I wipe my brow), not sure I could go through that again.
And just so you know what I mean watch this and you will get the idea, I am the mother, (well without the stuff they are advertising).
Posted by KP on 2008-07-13 07:18:25 | Rating: | Views: 69
My friend actually did that in a grocery store with her daughter. Loretta (5 years old) asked her to never take her shopping again. I think that's an awesome way to stop that behaviour. I just wish I could have seen it in person...
I did the same thing when my daughter was 3. It worked for a short while. She was/is a fit thrower by nature. I've been told not to give it attention. I tried that too and it seemed to only grow.
I just say yes stop it now by whatever means,befor it becomes habbit!!!
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