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Having spent a lovely morning talking with WK today, I decided that I had better check my main email, which I hadn’t done for a few days. Once again bombard with rubbish, but two emails did catch my attention.

The second email shocked my world today and reminded me that life is too precious to take for granted.

Tina 1976 – 2008

Thank you for coming into my world.
Thank you for bringing joy to me when we were together
Thank you for being my friend when I felt so alone in a strange place.
Thank you for the good and bad times that we both shared
Thank you for the nights we would stay awake talking about everything and anything.
Thank you for making me laugh and cry and being the one who wiped my tears
Thank you for blessing my world

I met Tina when I returned to high school in my early 20’s, I had felt so alone, being that I was the eldest there and because I knew no one. We were exact opposites yet for some reason we hit it off from day one. At one time she came and shared a flat with me and another friend. Once she even moved in with my parents when things were bad for her. We would go out and party and we would also hit the books hard when needed.

Over time and with our lives moving in different directions our time together wasn’t as constant as it use to be. I had married and had children while she still partied and stayed single. However when we did get together it was like it was just the day before when we last saw each other. Finally last year she married a beautiful man who adored her and her wacky ways. The wedding was beautiful, a real fairytale ending. And the topping of all this was Tina was about to have her first baby in 3months time. Both her and her husband were extremely happy and were looking forward to the new chapter in their life. But this weekend the fairy tale has been shattered.

One the other side of town a group of blokes were sitting around drinking and being blokes (so I assume). When one decided to that he had had enough. He picked up his car keys and headed home.

Some time into drive, for him and for Tina (as she had been at her mothers), their cars collided, after he veered onto the wrong side of the road. Tina’s car was apparently a mess. Her and her baby died on impact.

The police report has stated that the other driver a male in the age bracket of 30+ had spent the good part of the afternoon drinking heavy beers with his mates. He proceeded to drive knowing that he was most likely over the alcohol limit, but he felt that out of all his mates he was the most sober, so he didn’t think it was an issue to drive. According to the police report he was 0.25 (0.05 is the limit), He walked away with a few scratches.

He gets to live the rest of his life while in a split second of madness he has taken from us a beautiful women and her unborn child. Later this afternoon I found out that the baby was a girl.

My one regret is that I hadn’t told her my news. I hadn’t been able to share with her that I was going to live, and right now I know that she would have made this a very special time for me had she know.

WK you think I did a selfless act the other day, well now my heart is breaking because of the choice. And I hate myself for it.

Tina and baby, may the angels keep you warm from now on.
May you smile down on us and keep us warm with you love.
You will be forever in my heart, and with everyone who knew you.

RIP TC