This is a two for price of one. One is a cute story that leads into number two. And number two is something I need advice on.

Well after a long while my son (5 years old), finally lost his first tooth. This has bothered him for some time as most of his kinder buddies had lost their first tooth and then since starting school some had lost their second. So night after night as he was going to bed after brushing his teeth, he would let me to check to see if any were wobbly. Finally I got to say yes! He was delighted. I have a feeling that the tooth got wobbled more than normally just so it would fall out. A week later my little man comes in to the room upset because his tooth has fallen out and he can’t find it. He didn’t know that it had happened. That’s alright. “NO” I get told if there is no tooth then the tooth fairy won’t come.

Don’t worry I tell him we will write a letter for the tooth fairy. “No” she won’t be able to carry it.. Yes I said if we do it on the computer and then shrink the letters down to fairy size it will work. So that brightens his day up.

So a day later I remember that I didn’t do the letter for him. So while at school I write this little note out on the computer make it in to the smallest letters possible and then print it out. Get the craft scissor that cut the paper with an edging and all is good. But no I need to see what was written, so thankfully I had saved it pulled it up and made the letter adult size and we read it so he was happy.

So we have dinner and forget about the letter. That night the tooth fairy comes to open her purse to find that the hubby coin thief had been and nothing was there. A few choice words said, aimed in hubbies direction his fault. Can’t do much about it shops are closed till the morning will do it tomorrow night.

So master 5 gets up to have a look and is disappointed no money from the tooth fairy. “Did you put a glass of water out for her?” Asks I trying to come up with a reason, “No” was the reply. “ohhh well that is why, the tooth fairy needs the glass of water so that when she puts the coins in no one will wake up. Next night a glass of water is left out, and the tooth fairy comes and leaves $5, (first tooth and all).

The things we do.

So this is where part two comes into it.

Daughter (9 years old), wakes up first and goes down stairs, five minutes later so does son. Son is once again all please as tooth fairy had been and had left money. He shows me what was left. Hang on a minute that is less than what we put in. Puzzled ring hubby “How much went in the glass?” $5, ummm not five dollars in the glass. Puzzled maybe he dropped it in his excitement scour the ground as I go down stairs no missing money. Look at daughter and ask her did she see what was in the glass. “No just noticed that there was so money in there”. “What did you see, just three coins, again and still puzzled as to what has happened to the missing money. So we continue with getting ready for school and then go. See hubby while working so I stop and re check are you sure. Yes, but check my pants at home and if there is money in the pockets then I made a mistake. Come home check pockets nothing.

Go and pick up kids and question them both again, same response as in the morning. Well something really weird is happening. Get home clean school bags. At our school there is a policy that all lunch time rubbish must come home.
“Hang on a minute you didn’t have this in your lunch” looking at daughter,
“I got it at the canteen,” I was told by daughter.
“How did you get it at the canteen?”
“I brought it,”
“With what” I ask
“Money”
“What money?”
“Ohh so and so gave me some money”
“Since when are you playing with so and so?”
“Ohhh I found the money”
“Where did you find the money?”
“It was over there” pointing to the bench where the glass had been placed.
“On the bench or in the glass”
“Fine I will go to my room” and storms off.

So hubby and I look at each other and work out what had happen as daughter had come down first she took the money form the glass, and then tried to play innocent about it. She might have just gotten away with it had it not been for the fact they have to bring home their rubbish.

So I head up stairs to have a talk to her about stealing and lying. But what is bothering me the most is the fact that I have had to have this lying talk with her often lately and no matter what I say it just seem to be making any difference with her. I have tried punishment and talking, I have tried talking, I have told the story about the boy who cried wolf. But it just doesn’t seem to make any difference. The other week we were meant to go out to a social thing at the school and at the last minute didn’t go because of her lying. It is not like she is lying and getting away with it, (but then I have to wonder, if I am missing some of the lies and she is getting away with some things). But most of the times I catch her out. And it serves no purpose. And then I top of this I am finding it harder and harder to believe anything that she says. And I know that it is not only happening at home, but also at school. And she has even been caught out at school too. Notes coming home from school, school ringing me because she has no lunch, yet I know that I gave her lunch at home.

So how can I stop this, I am lost and in need of help.

Please if any one has suggestions I am open to them all.