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Last year I made a choice, to do something for myself. After some tossing back and forth in my mind I decided to get a tattoo. Why a tattoo? Well the thing was it was something that I had thought about for a long time, but never had the guts to do. It was also away of defying my mother, even though she had passed years before, I still felt her hold on me, and this was one thing I knew she would be upset about. I guess it was a rebel thing.

I had discussed this with Whiteknight and he was really pushing for me not to do it, as he was against it and very adamant that I shouldn’t do it. He even said that he would have to reconsider our relationship if I did go through with it. I was a little disappointed that he would try and use our relationship as a tool against me. However I did feel that this was still my choice. I did say that I would carefully consider what I was doing.

After a few days of considering what I was doing I made the descion that I was going to go a head with it. So with the support of a friend we went to a highly recommended tattoo parlour, choose a design and went a head with it. (I hadn’t even told my husband as I wanted it to be a surprise). My choice was a dolphin on the small of my back. Yes I must admit that it isn’t out there for all to see, but it is there and I love it. (Will post a picture of it later).

So what was the response, well my husband loved it. He was a little jealous that I had done it before him. But I knew that he will never do it, as he is scared of needles and will never have the courage. And Whiteknight was very disappointed with me. He did eventually calm down about it and has come to accept that this is part of who I am.

So now to my question; the other night Whiteknight asked me a question that got me thinking. He asked that when we get together could we get matching tattoo’s as a symbol of our love for each other. But it was only a year ago that he was dead against me getting one in the first place and now he wants matching ones. Can we really have the ability to change a person’s belief, that they would be willing to do something small as getting a tattoo? I know that love makes us do strange things, but to change ones belief I find it hard to understand.

KP