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A Baby part 2
As you can imagine I was an emotional wreak, young and so much alone by now.  So after a few meetings with social workers I had to make a choice about what I was going to do.  
On one hand I wanted to keep the baby.  I mean she was my daughter and even though I had only known her for a short time I knew I loved her.  If I keep her, could I give her what she needed?  How was I going to support myself and her?  Where was I going to live?  So many thoughts were going on.   
But on the other hand I was still young, I wanted to finish school. I wanted to go to university and I knew that I wouldn’t be able to if I keep her.  Then there was the one other problem. 

The father; I knew that if I went to SH’s family they would deny everything.  (I hope I don’t offend anyone with this next comment) But he was from a strict catholic up-bringing and they would have said something along the lines of “not my boy he is a good boy”  “He is still a virgin”. “He isn’t like that”, (you can get the picture).  
So to cut a long story short, I ended up putting her up for adoption.  It was a hard process to go through.  But I went through it and I even came out at the other end. 

I got to name her, and her parents kept her name. I got regular photos from the family keeping me informed about her.  However as of late with this electronic world, I haven’t received as much.  I got to choose a lot of things about her family. And a lot of things I didn’t bother with.  But the one thing I did choose was that she not be an only child.  I wanted her to have brothers and/or sisters to grow up with.  And I must say all that I asked I got.   
I did have doubts many times, before, during and after the process.  Did I do the right thing?  Was she safe?  Was she loved?  Was she having a happy childhood?  And I am 1000% sure she did.   And from what I can tell with all the past correspondence she has grown up to be a beautiful woman.  And one day I hope that she will want to meet me and meet her half brother and sister 


Ohh and by the way, my father did end up coming in to the hospital to see me, the day I was to go home.  And the nurses made him go and see his grandchild and hold her.  And in the end while she was in foster care he was the one that spoilt her and brought her many things and even spent time with her, before she went to her family.  But in all this he never said we will help you if you want to keep her.

KP

No matter how long it takes everything works out in the end. Smile

Posted by KP on 2007-10-13 20:31:06 | Rating: | Views: 173


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Posted by
overthehillandfaraway
on 2007-10-14 03:12:40
 
Oh the things we carry in our hearts for a lifetime. That hurt will never go away but the important thing is that baby was brought up in a good and loving home by people who really wanted and needed her. And, one day, if she chooses, she can ask to meet you. I pray that she does and that your story will have a happy ending.
E
 
 

Posted by
kentlass
on 2007-10-14 13:05:29
 
being adopted myself can understand and aye, she'll want to contact you when shes told and old enough to decide.
good luck sweetheart. hug
 
 

Posted by
breeezy
on 2007-10-14 22:54:10
 
Don't feel bad, you did what you felt you had to do. In my world, girls have babys even when the circumstances are similer to yours. I'm sure that you are middle to upper class and white, huh? The reason that I bring that up is because I am seeing the cultural differences when it comes to making decisions like that one. I believe though, that it takes just as much courage to give a baby up for adoption as it does to have the baby, so I dont' want you to think that I am downing you. It's just that it's a trip how different cultures have different ways of handling things. I mean, a upper to middle class white family would in some cases opt for adoption when a low income minority family would have the baby. And the white family is actually in the position to give the child a good life. All in all, as long as the child has lots of love, GOD will provide everything else. Again, I am not against your decision and I am actually giving you props for being able to do that (I couldn't), you did a very unselfish thing. Was it your decision or your parents? What do you think your life would have been like if you had not have done that? I also pray that you are able to one day reunite with your child if that is your desire. And your story will probobly help some little girl somewhere. Peace.
 
 


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