If your having this many doubts about sex then don't do it. You need to be ready and confident when you do have sex so then you won't regret it. Also this is for me but I try to date a guy for atleast a year until I have sex with him because atleast you guys have been together for a while, but thats your decision.
I regret the first time I had sex and I we'd had been dating for 9 months. He used me and it still hurts today even though it was years ago.
Yes your first time will hurt.

IF YOU realy love that guy ? may be feeling is so improtant , it's right that it would hurt the first time .but maybe not badly

I think that you should wait,
wait, at least until a commited relationship.
Besides, you will know when you are ready

peace and love,

If you were really ready, you wouldn't be questioning if your ready. I think you need to give it more time to see if that's what you really want and if you love him enough to trust him and to have sex with him. The 1st time for me did hurt alittle, but not badly. Just take your time!!

~Amanda~ XoXo

I am going to voice a slightly different perspective on this. Sex, honestly, is just not that big of a deal. Atleast to me personally, it is not. Though your stance on it could be completely different. I think it is what you make it, from a huge life changing thing with your "one and only" to just plain physical pleasure with another person. I don't think we ever really "know" when we are ready, and there is no promise that waiting any certain length of time will ensure that the other person won't break your heart. If you are curious, and that curiosity won't go away, maybe you should explore it a little bit. Just do make sure that anything you end up doing is done with protection. Having fun and having sex are great, having a baby when you are not completely ready... probably not so great. And as far as pain... I honestly don't remember any on my first time (and I was recovering from back surgery at the time heh), but I was with a guy who was slightly older and more experienced, who was patient and provided plenty of foreplay, which is so key on making the experience enjoyable. Don't rush into anything, and don't do something you are uncomfortable with but... also don't deny doing something like this because of some grand ideas about it being magical and special. It can be those things, don't get me wrong but, it doesn't have to be (and realistically it won't be like that every time even when you are settled down and in love and all that, even then sometimes it is just sex for the pure pleasure of it.) Just be smart and safe about it and you will be fine.

well youll get hurt if you dont know the person all the way through
upside down inside out
and hes everything to you..
but hes not..
hardly what you call a relationship
and you know that
but he wont see you afterwards he'll just see what he boned
and how nice it was an the next time itll happen usually...
depending on the guy some arent like that, and i dont know him to tell
you if he is or isnt.. you only have your judgement.
want sex-find a friend an bone (one that you can trust)
and then have a relationship with this guy.
and when it gets to that point do it or dont WHEN YOU LOVEM.

I think that you should wait until you are
a) over the age of consent, preferably
b) ready at least to talk about sex directly with your guy.
It's good that you can ask for advice, and I am here if you want a chat. Also, I have talked to my friends about this, and it is very unlikely that it will seriously hurt on the first time, just don't rush things.

First, let me congratulate you on being a virgin at the age of 16, which is an incredibly rare thing nowadays. Just the fact that you are thoughtfully questioning the very major shift into an active sex life gives me hope in your generation. That said, let me just say that as one of the most libidinous people I've ever seen, male or female, I'm a huge fan of the experience of a sensual and sexual life and connection with another human being...it's something that, when entered into consciously, safely and passionately can be an incredible expression of emotions and pure creativity.

My first time was when I had just turned 18 and it was with someone I was completely crazy about. I don't know if it was love, probably not, but there was great affection and trust there. And while I am quite glad it was with him and the cicumstances were rather adorable, it's not something I dwell on too much.

With a decision like this, don't put too much importance on it to where it paralyzes you or becomes overwhelming, but pausing to really reflect and "check in wiith yourself" about it all is a really important thing to do, in life in general.

Don't worry about what other people, including me, advise you to do or not do. You know your belief systems better than anyone else. Your intuition is strong and valid. That little inner voice that guides you and tries to help you do what's best for you...listen to it. Block out everyone else's projections because any advice you get will be filtered through that person's entirely unique history, belief system and personality. You have your own path to walk. You can find the answers inside, but do your best to come from a place of self love and self respect whatever you decide to do. And whenever you do enter into an active sex life, be safe but also enjoy it and don't be afraid to express yourself. It can take a long time to become confident and relaxed sexually, but ultimately, it's a beautiful expression of feelings and the best aspects of being human.

In terms of discomfort, that varies from woman to woman, but there's no denying that the first time isn't usually great for women. The more relaxed you can be, by trusting the person, trusting your choice, being safe about it all, the less discomfort you will likely have. And if it happens to exceed your comfort level at any point, DO NOT be afraid to stop things. You need to be with a partner who understands and respects that completely, no matter how worked up or "close" he might be. ;)

It's an important choice in that it begins a whole new chapter of your life and your experience of yourself, but it's not necessarily the "be-all end-all", so just relax, breathe, and trust what your own instincts are telling you.

Just be safe, love yourself and enjoy your journey.

My advice to you is to wait until you feel one hundred percent ready, and that's a decision thats going to come from inside you, not from blog comments. But as for the whole waiting until marriage thing, I think its BS. Why should you need to have a paper stating your love for someone so you can expierence the act of love? If you love someone, theres no shame in showing it. Hell, even if you don't love someone but you want the sex, go for it. Its your life and your body. I wish I could give you some advice on the whole regret thing, but I can't. When I lost my virginity I was confident, I was happy with my guy, and I knew I was ready, but I still regret it. You're never going to know until you do it. You can swear up and down you'll be fine with it or not, but a few days, weeks, months, years, later, your oppinion may change. And as for the whole hurting thing, it depends on the person. It personally didn't hurt one bit for me, or a few of my friends, and I know some people who said it hurt for a few minutes but then it got better. So when it comes time for you to do it whether it be tomorrow, next month, or three years from now, as long as you know you're ready, just tell yourself to relax and breathe. When something hurts me thats what I do and it always makes it more barable. Good luck <3