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Trust...what is it?

Trust. What is it?

My understanding leads me to believe that it means to have confidence in something. People often use this word without much caution. Consider the intention of the person who wants to be trusted. Why would someone want to be trusted? What do they gain from it? It is an intangible benefit.

Would it be foolish for someone to put absolute trust in someone or something? The question should be however, why should a person put their trust in anything? The answers vary according to subject, object and the extent of the trust. Would it be wise to put trust in a rock? If you believe the rock is hard, would you say that you trust that the rock is hard? If you would, I don’t think that necessarily means that you trust a rock. The rock isn’t concerned with having your trust so why are people? There seems to be an ulterior motive to desire another persons trust. When one is confided in that person becomes confident in themselves and often forget their limitations.

To tell another person that you don’t trust them may offend them even if that was not your intention. Why do people care if they are not trusted? What do they gain by being trusted? It seems like they only gain awareness that the person trusting them is willing to be vulnerable to betrayal. Why would anyone want to risk being betrayed? This trust seems like a voluntary submission to vulnerability. Is this trust empowering to the individual who is being trusted? Wouldn’t it be wise to only trust people to a certain extent? Does this make the trustee feel secure or do they want full trust? There is something peculiar about this type of bond. This bond seems to have value yet there lays a great risk, which is having the trust be broken.

Trust is like a bridge that invites destruction. Is it better to rebuild this bridge with the same materials or to use new materials or to change the location of the bridge all together? When a person acknowledges that they have broken their trust with someone should the same person who had trusted them trust that person again? Why should they do this? What do they have to gain and what does the person seeking trust have to gain? It seems like the person being trusted gains access to a weak point in the person who trusts them. The individual bestowing the trust ought to use caution, especially if they are entrusting another with information, a loved one or even ones own life, safety or well-being. So, the question still remains, why do people want to be trusted?

To trust or not to trust, now that is an important question. I say, give trust within reason. If you give a person a full plate of food, they will most likely eat all that is in front of them but if you give them only what they need, they will have no more to consume. I don’t believe it’s wise to give another person trust without them earning it and even in the event that they are deemed worthy of your trust you still should not give it entirely. There is no need from them. One person may find security in another persons insecurity and this seems to be the foundation for deceit and betrayal. To trust something is to grant power. Would it not be wise to consider what we are empowering?

Can we love a person but not trust them? I believe we can, and this is one of the problems people have in relationships. The man or woman both want to be trusted so they know that they are empowered with something so intangible yet somehow sacred. You must understand how sacred the power of trust is.

What happens when people lose trust in their government? We have put in awful lot of trust into our monetary system and when the value of our currency drops we are affected tremendously by it. Even on our money the words are printed in “God We Trust” but what happens when the money fails us because it causes much distrust between people, businesses and governments? Although this trust is dangerous, it's also sacred and ought to be acknowledged for it's vital importance in interpersonal relations between people. In a sense, imagine trust in the sense of sex because we "trust" that sex will provide pleasure and happiness but it also has the potential to causes us great pain and suffering. Be careful who you trust and be careful who you sleep with.

To entrust someone is to empower them to betray, dishonor and possibly destroy the mind or body of the one who had trusted him or her. Once trust is broken, there are consequences and we face them daily. If we look at all the calamity in the world it’s got to make a person wonder where the love is. Well, it seems like we may love our neighbors but simply cannot trust them and out of fear it becomes a game of elimination. ie) population control. aka "make believe purpose for war".

So why do we trust at all? If we cannot trust ourselves completely why would we trust anyone else whom we are unsure if they can trust themselves? What do we benefit from even trusting in God? We have much calamity in the world that people fight to stop and pray for it’s end yet God is not there how we trust God to be there. Many who put trust in God completely have faced much pain and suffering and from this experience they learn. I have considered that God may be that fatherly figure who expresses tough love towards his creation but I don’t know for certain if this is true. What I do know is that there is something far greater and more powerful in this world and out of our world besides us and I trust that we are on our own. I trust that through prayer our call is transmitted through the cosmos and affects the world we live in. I believe that if God were man he would say we have betrayed him but then he'll give us a choice of fate. Now the question that comes to mind is why does God want our trust to begin with. Even though many have lost his trust and many don’t even trust in him, does God still love them or us? It always seems like us & them so no wonder why there's no trust. If God can love without trust, can we love without trust?

Reflect...

Posted by JustBe777 on 2009-06-16 12:33:37 | Rating: