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So I'm a "tell me all your feelings" kind of person and something I don't understand iswhy it's so hard for men....(some men not ALL) to just say how they feel. Why do feelings and thoughts have to be pulled out of them? Does saying how you really feel make you less of a man?
(This is somethingI've wanted to know for a while...and since guys can read this and answer I think it's a perfectplace to find some answers! So all comments are greatly appriciated!!) Thanks much!!
Posted by JenLyn on 2008-07-23 11:54:39
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It's because men are raised and influenced throughout their
childhood and beyond to be tough. A similar situation could be
society's impression on women to be thin, artificial, with
massive sex appeal. Men are expected to be Chuck Norris, and
when anyone thinks of the tough, gritty hero we wanted to be as
kids, we don't think off... Calmly discussing our feelings...
we think of killing and beer and violence and BEER. But men,
for the most part, are really afraid of stepping out of the
bounds of "masculine". I don't believe in a lot of
definitions, though, and I consider myself a pretty sensitive
sort of guy, have never had a security issue when it comes to
talking about my troubles or emotions, but I've also never been
one to fit in the dominant 'manly' crowd of jocks and
rednecks. That being said, I don't really regret the fact.
I'm living it up, having a good time listening to New Age music
and writing poetry. Hope this gives you a decent
opinion. Cheers! -red
Posted by redhawke on 2008-07-23 12:51:55  
I would like to know also. It's so hard to get my husband to tell
me whats bothering him, I always tell him keeping it in is going
to give you high blood pressure at a young age. When he finally
does tell me (when he's drunk off his ass), the next day he
pretends it never happened. I can't stand it, but I guess I have
no room to talk because I work my ass off to be thin, and he
doesn't get that.
Posted by analyst04 on 2008-07-23 19:22:22  
It's so funny that guys can tell you all of their feelings when
they're drunk. haha And your right, let's just pretend THAT never
happened. It is VERY annoying and I just wish there was something
I could physically grab onto and yank that shit out of him!
Posted by JenLyn on 2008-07-23 21:15:56  
Men are built with different wiring, for some feelings are just
that, to be felt not discussed, they are to tied in to emotions
which are unreliable, and can be dangerous!! lol, there is too
much of EXPRESS YOURSELF! in this world anyway, if done after
emotions have run the course logical discussion can happen, but
not when emotions and feelings are just waiting to light those
bushes on fire. men need to think things through, work it out
mentally, not talk them out, once we work it through its all
good, but when a women is pestering us, picking at our brains we
cant work it through, and we get pissed, shut down, tune out, and
grab the remote. women and men don't think the same, its not a
bad thing, but we have to realize we aren't going to nag, pick,
annoy our partner into expressing themselves, all you will get is
frustration and anger in response, otherwise marry a women, find
other ways to understand us, pick up on other clues, body
language, voice tone, what we DO talk about,
Posted by trentnwolf on 2008-07-25 00:13:50  
Makes sense.
Posted by JenLyn on 2008-07-26 10:33:58  
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