Seeing as how I've been in this situation multiple times, it's always ended with one question in my mind:
??"Is it better to be the Girlfriend, or The 'Other' Woman"??
 My recent situation hit me hard, because the man that I thought I was in love with didn't love me back. At least, not the way i loved him.

 Now, i knew he has a girlfriend to start with, but lemme give it to you from the OTHER WOMAN'S point of view:

He was ALWAYS with me. We developed a deep friendship, and it wasn't based on sex. We only had sex one time. We hung out ALLLLL the time. When we weren't hanging out, we were on the phone with eachother. Never ONCE did I hear him say anything positive about his girl. EVER. The only thing he did was complain. Complain that she was insecure, jealous, and would fight with him about the stupidest issues. When we would hang out, we'd hold hands, kiss, and be initimate (without sex) with one another. In MY mind, i'm thinking that he doesn't want his girlfriend anymore. I honestly thought that he was trying to slowly back away from her, since he was spending so much time with me...THEN i find out the truth. He informs me that although he does love me, he doesn't picture it going anywhere because we have 2 different lifestyles. Meaning, that i'm a white girl, and he's a black guy, and because of our families it wouldn't work. Now, i'll admit that my parents would raise their eyebrows, but i make decisions for myself regardless, and I had so much faith in him. 

After this confession, I felt hurt, betrayed, and I wanted answers. Should i feel guilty because I was "breaking up a happy home"....when I thought it wasn't happy in the first place? Because honestly, if I knew he was happy, I never would've gone along with the whole thing. And according to him, he didn't do anything wrong because I knew from the start that he had a girlfriend. He said that I had his love as a friend (for now) because he has a girlfriend...but he doesn't know what could happen later. Me, feeling used, betrayed, and guilty, told him that i didn't want anything to do with him because i COULDN'T be "just a friend". Not when our behavior was anything but friendly. And does it count that he was the one to initiate everything? Does it count that his behavior was that of a boyfriend, not of a guy just looking for something on the side? Does it count that we really were friends, and confided in eachother about anything and everything?

Yea, it may have been wrong to get close to someone else's man...but in this case, could I really be held at fault? IS it really that bad being the other woman, because the actual girlfriend is getting cheated on anyway? Should I have remained friends with him? Was what we shared special in it's own hidden twisted way because it was based on feeling, rather than just a booty call? Is it weird that he didn't want to let me go, even though at this point i hung up on him (quite a few times), wrote a mean Myspace bulletin about him (posting it, but not stating who it was about) and avoided him after his confession? I admit I acted juvenile, but he made me so angry and i didn't know what to do.

So with that point of view in mind...is it worse being the girlfriend who gets cheated on, or the other woman who doesn't get the title, but gets the feelings....