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So, I met a nice guy (not the one I've been gushing about, but another one) and he was very into me. As much as I liked this nice guy, I explained to him that I really liked someone else. Still, I thought he and I could be great friends... and he even offered to help me build my portoflio.
Fast Forward to the reminder that "Something for Nothing is Not Real!"
I challenged him on why he made that offer and he admitted it was because he liked me. And now today, he determined that he can't wait for me (which I didn't ask or encourage him to do) or put himself through the agony of being my friend and he hasn't followed through with the help on the portfolio.
Here's what I've noticed. Men are incredibly nice, giving, forthcoming, helpful, etc... if they believe there's a return of sex. But when a relationship or sex is denied, they retract their offers of kindness.
I mean, it's understandable, of course. But for someone who doesn't try to take advantage of people, who's very honest about interests, and is naturally generous, I'm finding myself left with a lot of broken promises from men I THOUGHT were my friends. It's difficult because I've come to rely on the kindness of friends in general, especially in forming business partnerships, but when it comes to men, more and more they're falling to the wayside in terms of coming through in the business partnership, because ultimately it seems as though their promises were just to lure me into a place where I would exchange either my heart or my panties for their part. The hidden clauses, terms and agreements. One should always read between the lines.
I don't exchange sex for business and I don't know that that's how they mean to treat me or make me feel, but it's downright insulting. Still I suppose they could easily think that I use my sexuality to lure them helping, but I've never asked them for anything and i always try to keep things on the level and all about business.
Maybe I'm simply entering the age when men and women can't be friends and so for me to assume that any act of kindness on their part is purely benevolent is just plain ignorant on my part.
Is there such thing as an act of kindness with no strings attached, especially between men and women. God, how I wish and hope that there is, were, or would be. |
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Posted by JMlessons on 2008-07-26 20:44:54 | Rating: | Views: 64
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I hear ya. It sucks 'cause if you don't put out you're labeled a bitch, or a cocktease, or a lesbian; and if you do you're the office slut. Sad. Yes, the other half of the species can be crude and revert to their baser instincts (alot!) but they're not all bad, I promise! For every one that's a complete a**hole, there are five others who are total sweethearts.
~L
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Posted by LARed
on 2008-07-26 20:59:30
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