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So...I have a few things to say. As usual lol. But here is where I vent so might as well get it out. I appreciate my friends being supportive. I appreciate them caring about me. Anyway, with that said...I saw my attorney today and we decided it would be the easiest for me to get a divorce rather than an annulment. Well, I found out that my "husband" never divorced his first wife. So our marriage is void. And yes an annulment would be the "proper" way to go about it...but not the most convenient for me.
I would have to provide the courts with Sal's and chelsey's marriage certificate and then show the fake divorce decree.
Or get a testimony out of Chelsey and blah blah.

I don't care to spend any more time than I have to. I don't care to make it any more complicated. I want what is easiest for me. I spent several months in complete stress and isolation, so now I wanna do what is the easiest on me.
I don't wanna go out of my way to prove this to get an annulment. I just don't care.
I don't care to tell him off, I don't care to say anything to him, or chelsey, or anyone in his family. I wish him the best, and we go about our own seperate ways.
I don't want to hate him or wish him ill things or anything, I am finished with him. I am not wasting another piece of energy of mine on this. I just wanna do the divorce and be done with it.

I am not gonna call him or send an email or anything. I am not gonna cut up the clothes he left here and send it back to him. That is called childish.
What I do care about is me. My son, my pets, my life and what I do with my life from now on.

Sal is no longer a concern of mine.

Like I said before, no one died here, I am fine, it was only 6 months out of my life not 6 years or anything like that. And now its time to move on. I appreciate my friends caring about me and being mad he did this to me, yes I understand. But why be angry and waste your energy on him?

I don't think its too bad that I can't prove it in court that he was married to chelsey and still is.
I think its nice that I am taking the easy route that works best for me. I just wanna get this over with. He has taken enough of my time as it is, and I have moved on and I want to get this last piece of thing done. The divorce. After that I have no ties to him and I want to keep it that way.

I don't want to seek revenge or anything. I want to be completely done, and l don't care what he does in his life from now on, its not my problem. I keep saying that over and over in my entry and that is bc I feel like ppl have failed to hear me and i just need to get it out.

There are a few who have actually listened to me and understand this, but there are some that, just want to hang on or stir drama or it's like they want me to get mad or care or something.
Why can't they understand I simply don't care anymore. He's not my problem anymore. I yanked the last thorn out of my side out and now I am happy.

I felt better after seeing my lawyer, I felt uplifted at the thought of just getting it done and be done.
I am also going to get a massage tomorrow and im excited about that. I have been over due to do the things I enjoy. So now everyday is a new exciting day for me. :)
I put in an application for volunteer work, my finances are looking up again, I am making new friends, I enjoy my house and quiet time, I feel more open to dating and marriage than I ever have before in my life, I am positive and happy. I find myself giggling and such throughout the day, and I enjoy my pets and fish again. So now that I am in a good space, why should I reverse back into depression and stress by emailing or having some kind of contact with Sal?

Tomorrow I am going to sleep in, I have had to wake up early everyday for something so tomorrow I am going to sleep in. Lay in my bed for a few extra minutes, stretch and just relax. Then go to my massage..hehe. Depending how i feel afterwards maybe i will go play some volleyball.

Posted by JJwTheCrew on 2008-09-09 22:23:52 | Rating: