I am not trying to be rude here, maybe everyone can just help me understand or something.  Because my respect for the male species in general is constantly deteriorating.  And trust me, I am trying to respect them equally.  I also understand there are good guys out there and not all are the same.  I am not talking about those issues, but in general.  Average guy. 
Why is it that if a woman is witty or a smart ass, its considered to be a total bitch or too much attitude?  I cannot help myself when the window has been left wide open for a perfect smart ass comment back.  I guess I just do not have the control to be quiet and act like some kind of submissive woman who tolerates all stupidity. 
It seems to me that if a woman is intelligent, then it is considered a bad thing.  To me, it is a gift.  But men being an asshole, we are supposed to be tolerant of it and make excuses for them.  Being an ashole is not a gift, but intelligence is.  At least in my opinion anyway. 
I cannot pretend to be dumb and twirl my hair or bat my lashes...or turn my cheek when a man is doing something bad. 
As much as I am critiqued for living in the 18th century bc I do not approach men.  I was raised to believe that was not lady like, well the same ppl who critique me, have made comments like..."no wonder you cannot find a man." 
And that comment came up when I was discussing business marketing about vehicles.  I just do not see the connection.  What does work have to do with dating?  Am I supposed to always think about how to behave according to society to be appealing to a man who happens to like a submissive woman?  I cannot freely openly discuss different ideas for a vehicle to be sold? 
Are you mad because my idea was liked by management and not yours?  Does that make me unattractive to men? lol, I mean come on.  Please explain. 
Men seem to complain when women are being clingy and needy, yet when I want alone time to read or do whatever else I like to do on my own, then I get the whole "you love yoga more than me...or reading"  a whole list of my hobbies are thrown back in my face.  Just because I want to take a few hours a week to myself.  Now who is being clingy???
When men want alone time, it seems to me, that women are supposed to accept it and give him that time.  But when its swaped then there is a list of guilt trips going on worse than having a mother in law.

Ok, now here is another issue.  Many of my friends, who are married, tell me things like "ooh it took a lot of work for him to finally get it or be this way.  "He wasn't always this good, it took time and work."  Well that is nice and all but what the hell?  Are men some project to mold.  Did they get dumped with a large pile of clay and hey have at it, mold it into whatever you want.  It's gonna be tough and take a long time but you will get there. 
Is that supposed to be encouraging?  It seems tiring to me.  I have learned that I cannot change anyone, the only person who can change is themselves.  We all know this...or I thought we did. 

Ooooh and before I say anything else, the whole issue or not approaching men...well ok let me explain.  It is not like I just sit there waitin for a man to talk to me first.  And what I mean is any man.  I do not feel obligated to talk to everyone.  I am not the puppy in the window, waiting for an owner.  I know women are gulity of acting that way also.  I know women also have their fair share of problems.  I am not saying no man has ever been screwed over by a woman either.  So before ppl jump my throat here, I am just explaining that I am aware that women have issues too. 
In comparison though, it seems to me that I have known male friends, co workers, and so on who cheat in general more than I have known women who do that.  Yes, I do have female friends who have cheated in the past too.  But over all the men seem to outweigh the women in that area. 
And I don't really hear guys saying they had to mold their gf or wife into what they wanted, like the whole clay analogy I said earlier. 

I have almost started resenting telling anyone what it is that I desire.  Because when I have said truly and honestly the kind of person my heart desires....the reponse often is..."ooh that sounds just like me"  or "dream on that person doesn't exist."
The first comment...well what is interesting and funny about that is, the guys who have claimed they are what I desire....I do not recall saying I wanted a wigger, or a pot smoker, or a loser without a job, or a moron, or someone who has a million kids here and there with 100,000 dollars in back child support, or exceptional manipulation skills, judgemental, racist, narrow minded, and uneducated.  I do not know if these ppl need some haldol, I heard that drug helps you not hear voices.  
To the second comment...well regarldess if one's perspective it is considered impossible, it is still my desire.  My desire is my desire.  Realistic or unrealistic.  But let's just turn the table for a second here. 
Let's say a man told you his desire was to meet a woman who is japanese and swedish, dresses gothic at times, likes gory movies, studies world religions, loves animals, has a degree in business marketing, extremely sarcastic at times, small framed and feminine yet knows how to put in new kitchen counter tops on her own and hard wood floors, can train and rehab troubled dogs,  speaks 3 languages, oh and is rich on top of all of it.  Most ppl would say, she doesn't exist.  Well, I do exist.  I just listed things about myself.  So to the whole "impossible" mentality my existence was elimited completely.  But I do exist, I am right here.  So therefore, my that theory my desired man must exist too.  Hehe, I love philosophy.  lol.  
Anyway, I am trying my best to respect men.  I am trying really hard, but its getting more and more challenging each day. 
Brien helps me with that, he shows me qualities that i simply did not think men had.  I have another friend who is male and I respect him.  That is 2 in close to 6 billion ppl on the planet.  There has to be more right?  Respect worthy? 
Ok enough for now.