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There is a woman I seem to run into about every six months and I saw her today. Although I haven't seen them in some time, I am friends with her whole family - her mom and dad, her sister and her brother-in-law is one of my best friends. I was even friends with her ex-husband.
When I first met her she must have been about 16 and a high school beauty queen. She was a cheerleader with an angelic face and a bright future. Her boyfriend was a guy all the girls eyed. Before they were 21 they were married and soon she was pregnant with their first son. That's where the fairy tale ended.
Her husband apparently wanted a beautiful show piece, not a pregnant wife. I never talked to him about it, but I heard he found a girlfriend, although he brought his wife to my wedding, a happy couple it would have seemed. The husband came home, vowing to be a faithful husband and father after the baby was born. The beauty queen, now a few pounds heavy, got pregnant again. And her husband strayed again and left for good.
Although we only talk briefly a couple times a year, since then I have seen how C's life has left her lonely and hurting. It's in her eyes. There have been boyfriends, each a little less worthy of a beauty queen than the one before. I believe that is a sign of her desperation to find someone, anyone. She once asked me if I had any brothers.
My friend had her oldest son with her today. He is all grown up. It's hard to believe all those years have gone by. Her sons will soon be leaving the house. I hope she will be okay. She has put on more weight over the years but she still has that pretty face. She will always have that.
Seeing C today made me think about all the high school expectations when the world is new and possibilities are endless for those blessed with good looks and a good family. I guess nothing guarantees a happy life. One false step and life knows no boundaries in its brutality.
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Posted by HungryHeart on 2008-01-13 00:04:46 | Rating: | Views: 106
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Thoughtful post. Puts to rest the myth that the beautiful people are destined to live a life of happiness. I often wonder what became of the popular high school cheerleaders and jocks from my youth. Our lives are created by the choices we make. We all make wrong choices, but I believe that by making new choices we can turn our lives around or at least, start down another [better] path. Like I have said before ... it's never to late to be what you might have been. Wishing you Peace, Hope & Love
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Posted by ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-01-13 16:23:29
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this post just reminds me of the farce fed to so many children these days that the world is their oyster, that they have so much potential...it makes them feel like they can do and say and become anything with no fear of reality seeping in. if there is one thing i want my daughter to have as she gets older, its the ability to take everything life hands her and make it something beautiful. we build our children up with these high hopes and dreams and then when something goes wrong we look at it as though everything has come crashing down and its the end of the world. how much simplier life would be if we instead taught them how life works and ingrain in them at an early age that a change in their plans doesnt mean the end of a dream..it just means that its time to take control of your life and make the dream work a different way.
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Posted by kmalbro
on 2008-01-14 12:54:15
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It does seem when we are young that we have all these expectations of how life will turn out. It doesn't seem to work out that way. All we can do is hope that we don't keep making the same mistakes and that one day things will improve. If we have hope then all is not lost. :)
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Posted by alleen
on 2008-01-14 15:31:57
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