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I don't want to discourage anyone from adopting a child. I think it is wonderful that people open their hearts and homes to children that need it. However, there should be some caution and I speak from first hand experience.
My youngest sister was adopted. She was one of many foster babies my mother took in. She was what they then called "bi-racial" (I believe her mother was Native American and her father was black) and therefore there was not a long list of people waiting to adopt her.
Now, my mother had her problems - she loved babies but could be mean and hurtful too and was prone to sudden rages. Still, my little sister had problems that went beyond that. She had, and I suspect still has, no conscience. She is a textbook sociopath. I never saw her feel guilt and was an actress to get whatever she wanted. She was smart and attractive but also evil. I had moved away by the time she hit her teen years but I know she stole from my parents, especially after my mother died. I also heard she plotted to murder my brother who never disguised his dislike for her.
I don't know where she is now, but I know she is not welcome in my home. I suspect she knows it too.
My wife's parents adopted three children, two girls and a boy. The boy is one of the reasons my wife's life has become a living hell at times. He was the oldest and abused her and I suspect her sisters also, although they have never admitted it and have shunned my wife for doing so. If I ever see him, you will only hear from me again if there is internet access at the prison.
I know many adoptions are great things and turn out wonderful for all involved. But know the dangers going in.
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Posted by HungryHeart on 2008-01-02 22:55:07 | Rating: | Views: 101
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Adoption had nothing to do with your sister being a sociopath. Anyone can have a child afflicted with what is, now, called an 'antisocial behavior disorder'. Actually, we're seeing more and more of this kind of personality disorder for some reason, and it has made me wonder about, and fear, the future at times. Still, I wouldn't connect adoption with sociopathy - adopted kids get enough bad press without that.
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Posted by Indigo_Drift
on 2008-01-03 00:49:15
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i don't think that hungry heart intended to link sociopathic behavior with adoption...only that when you adopt a child you don't necessarily know where they have been or what they have been through. so a person's ignorance of a child's backround can lead to issues of such severity and more. his blog sounded more like a warning label to seriously consider the risks involved and whether you are able to handle them when you take on that kind of challenge.
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Posted by kmalbro
on 2008-01-03 15:17:54
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We run into sociopaths in every walk of life.
It sure would be a terrible thing, to lovingly bring one into your home, and have to endure their sad minds.
Adoption is a wonderful thing, but it is just like taking a stranger in off of the street.
Needless to say, our own flesh and blood, can become sociopathic as well.
Sociopaths, are just people who care nothing for themselves or others.
They are loveless beings.
It is rather sad, if you ask me.
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Posted by DifficultSoul
on 2008-01-04 11:59:11
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the best of intentions stand for themselves and good deeds. but you cant always have a happy ending based on your kind intent. DS's comment is what struck me as most true...that a sociopath is a loveless being. poetic and true. sometimes no matter how much you love someone they just arent capable of absorbing it. and if someone can't absorb love then they certainly cannot show it in return.
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Posted by kmalbro
on 2008-01-04 13:17:44
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