Shame man, my heart is bleeding out to you...I dont know whether he's dangling a carrot in front of you or is genuinely into you yet apprehensive because he's never been in an all male relationship. What I dont like about the whole thing is that he told you his feelings were mutual and yet tells you he cant be in a relationship with you because he's bad at them...C'mon and even compares you to his ex girlfriend? I really hope he is not using you for lodging and taking advantage of you liking him so very much...

Ive been in the same situation, i found out later that all he wanted was the sex.
Be careful so that he dont tak an advantage of you, some guys are like thatm and he sounds like one of them

That's the ironic thing though, we haven't done anything. We haven't even held hands, let alone kiss or have sex. So far it's purely emotional connections.

That's the ironic thing though, we haven't done anything. We haven't even held hands, let alone kiss or have sex. So far it's purely emotional connections.

I am of two mind sets here. One, I can see him holding back because he is sincere on telling you he is bad at relationships. {Have you asked him yet if he has ever had a relationship with another man?} To be staying with you, and sleeping in the same bed, but not to have even help hands or kissed yet shows great restraint on your part, but it makes me wonder about him. If he was truely attracted to you one would think something would have happened after sleeping together for a few days. It could be he is waiting for you to make the first move on that, or it could be he isn't looking to have a sexual relationship. Before allowing him to move in, I would ask him a few questions. Does he have a job in the area? Will he be paying anything towards the expenses? Simply things like that. But the most important would be what his intentions are as to the two of you. Does he want to share a place with a friend or a lover? If he is looking to you as a friend, then sleeping in the same bed should not be happening. Do you have an extra bedroom?

Now for what you have to ask yourself. Are you comfortable having someone move in after only knowing them for a week? I know you talked and texted for awhile, but you have really only known him for a week. Can you handle having him stay with you if he is just wanting a friend? Is your attraction to him only sexual? What happens in a month if you don't see eye to eye on where your relationship is?

Wow, there is just so many intangibles that you should figure out first, and don't just jump into this because you said he could stay with you, or that your emotions are controlling you. I can see this being great or greatly bad, depending on how you go about this. Give this a lot of true thought before making a final decision. Let me know if you need anything more. Good luck,,,,,Travis

p.s. This wasn't a rant. Seeking advice is a good thing, it is up to you what to do with that advice.

Hey Travis,
I asked him and he said he has never had a relationship with another man other than sexual. He's never been emotionally attached to another man. As far as the first move goes, IDK. Before he came here, when we had the talk about my feelings towards him and vice versa, I asked where the line was on what is allowed and what isn't so I do not cross any boundaries. He said there is almost nothing I could do that would cross the line. So he may be waiting for the first move, I cannot be sure. He will have a job in the area. He is transferring his job here until he finds a different job he likes more. He also will be paying his half of the bills and whatnot. My lease is up in a few months and we have already talked about getting another place together that is bigger because my current apartment is extremely tiny. With sleeping arrangements, I gave him the open ended choice of the bed or the couch, and he chose bed. Granted the bed is more comfortable, but that was his decision, and I did not fight it.
I may have only known him in person a week, but we have talked about quite a bit. We became really good friends and my desire for a relationship built onto that. I am not one to be extremely worried about sex. If I have it, that is great, but if the other person wants to wait, isn't comfortable, etc, then I can go without. And my current concern is that I don't think we see eye to eye as it is. I can go back to just being friends, but if he likes me and I like him, I do not understand why he won't give us a shot. It is frustrating when people don't give themselves a chance for fear of what may happen. Thanks DarkAngel