Posted by
Faith
on 2008-03-29 15:44:18 |
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I am very sorry this happened to you. That bastard deserved for someone to take away his safety. I will never understand people who treat children this way. There must be a special place in hell for these creeps.
I'm glad you went ahead and posted this. It should help you to fight your demons to write about it, scream about it or whatever you feel like you have to do. Peace. |
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Posted by
lastblastkl
on 2008-03-29 17:36:01 |
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| i know of this kind of thing. i was six and an uncle did the same to me and then when i was about 13 a closer family member did worse. i have never gotten over it and i too am catholic and believe in forgiveness but i can't either. when my uncle passed and everyone was saying what a good person he was i just wanted to hurl.how could people think this man was good? didn't they know he molested me? i wanted to scream it! when it happened again i thought i would just die and by someone i trusted more than anything. i wanted to tell my father but knew it would have caused so much more hell. i ended up telling my mother and she blamed me bc "he" wouldn't do such a thing. i became a self destructive human being and it continues on and on. i'm trying to be stronger and get stronger bc of things currently happening in my life and i know i will. i have to believe in something good, or what else do we have? |
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Posted by
smileforthecamera
on 2008-03-29 18:17:19 |
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| Aww sweetie, thats awful! It is so disturbing when something like this happens and even more when it is someone whom you loved and trusted. He really was a messed up person. |
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Posted by
November
on 2008-03-30 05:28:49 |
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| This only sucks because you'll never have closure. There's nothing you can do but block it out completely -OR- bond with your friends and share with someone who will believe you. Personally, I know you're telling the truth because you are not alone and your mother is . . . . well nevermind about that. If you ever need a place to vent, splurge, and/or ooze, contact me. |
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Posted by
Ellie2008
on 2008-03-30 08:59:17 |
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| I believe you can have closure even though the abuser is dead. I thank God he died before he could inflict any more pain on you. Some kids/people aren't as fortunate. Counseling can help with closure, so can rebirthing. Uncovering a secret as you've done here is huge and a start. I wish you luck and peace. |
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Posted by
prelude2it
on 2008-03-31 22:09:39 |
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| I think counseling can help you gain closure. Sharing it is also a big step. This is very supportive group and helps me a lot. |
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Posted by
Fancie
on 2008-04-02 17:26:57 |
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| Thanks Faith your wonderful comment. It helps to know that people care. |
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Posted by
Fancie
on 2008-04-02 17:29:12 |
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| Thank you so much Last blast. I am so sorry that such a terrible thing happened to you. I just don't understand why a man would want to hurt a child like that. |
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Posted by
Fancie
on 2008-04-02 17:30:53 |
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| Thanks so much Smile for the Camera. I am comforted by your words. I am comforted by all these comments. |
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Posted by
Fancie
on 2008-04-02 17:32:35 |
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| Thanks November for all your kind words. I can't bear to think of it. There weren't that many people who knew, until I posted this blog. It helps to know that others care. |
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Posted by
Fancie
on 2008-04-02 17:34:13 |
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| Thanks a lot Ellie2008. I don't know if I can ever have closure. I've known about it for awhile. Although I did block it out for years. But I can't bear to think of it or even talk about it. |
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Posted by
Fancie
on 2008-04-02 17:35:21 |
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| Thanks prelude2it. I don't think I will ever get closure. I talk to my counselor about many things, but I can't talk about this. Maybe someday. |
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Posted by
roe
on 2008-04-08 22:58:42 |
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| My brother was molested by a relative and that rat died too. But...I truly believe (also a catholic) that he is in hell right now, and he is paying for what he did! So when we think they have gotten away with something horrible, they didnt! He is going to suffer for eternity! I feel so bad for you, but maybe your story will help someone else. |
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Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2008-04-14 15:10:22 |
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I believe you.
He did this, not you.
Let him carry the hate.
You do not deserve the pain of hate after living with this tormenting memory.
Forgiveness is a gift to ourselves.
He is dead now, he does not even know or care how you feel.
If you forgive him, you will feel better.
Do it for you, not him.
Let forgiveness be a selfish act this time.
Chalk it up to human nature hon,, maybe you can forgive him if you think of him as..."frail and lacking"...
He was old and died shortly after, many elderly people ready to die, lose their faculties some.
They lose a grip on reality.
Hugs for you. |
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Posted by
naomidarlene
on 2008-04-15 23:02:53 |
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You might read a book by Dan B Allender, it's called "The Wounded Heart".
It's important for you to deal with the pain and the memories. You won't find healing until you face your past.
There were probably things in his past that caused him to act the way that he did (not excusing him, at all)...you were just the innocent prey; just happened to be there...it is in no way your fault.
Hatred only plagues your mind, but forgiveness and healing will bring a freedom from the bondage you experience.
It's a long process, but it's definitely worth it in the end. |
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