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She's being evicted

So throughout all the drama that is the woman who gave birth to me...I knew she wanted to live with me. She told family members, before she cut off relations with them, that she wanted to ultimately live with me and not have to work. Will, it looks like she is trying to make good on this plan.

I found out when she showed up at my door unnannounced last night that she is being evicted on the 31st. This is a whole chain of events that had just gone wrong for her...and with her at fault. She got the crappy jobs that were commission...and yes, I said job"s". Who does that? When they find out that job is commission and make YOU pay for training suck, why get another???

Who moves without making sure they have the apartment first? And then guilt the manager into letting her move in, as if it's her employers fault....when in actuality she's never gotten a pay stub---so they can't send a pay stub!!! Coincidentally, the manager who let her in against the rules...is no longer there. I hope she didn't get fired because of it :(

Now what? She is being kicked out. She's getting rid of all her furniture. I can't take any, I don't have room. I don't know anyone who wants any. I don't have the funds to get movers to move her stuff into a storage place, or to pay for one.

Here's the problem...I feel obligated to take her in. She hasn't asked, and a close (marriage related) family member who has known her WAY before I was born has told me the way she is, that she has done stuff like this before....she cries "poor poor me" to get stuff. She has probably planned this...which I am not sure, but even if it is or isn't, it's still hard faced with the fact that my mother will be homeless.

I feel like I should take her in. Like I should help her, even though she was never a mother to me. Even though she never really showed me she loved me. Should I? Do I? I have done nothing but helped her, and then I find out she TURNED DOWN A JOB because it didn't pay $15.00 an hour?!?!? Who doesn't take a job when they need ANYTHING?!?

I can't take her in. It would ruin everything. I would go back to waking up to yelling and screaming, I would be stressed and sick from it, my husband would not stand for it and leave (not me...but from here) and I don't want to live without him, we haven't even been married a year.

She wouldn't leave if I let her in. This is exactly what she said she would do last year to my family. She would move in with me, let me take care of her. She is not a good person, but does that mean I shouldn't be either? Or am I being a bad person if I choose not to let her in? Am I being bad if I take care of me and my husband first?

I don't care what anyone thinks anymore. Those around me that say yes and those that say no. I can't let her ruin my marriage, I can't let her make me sick anymore. I need to say no. She needs to hit rock bottom before she can get better and become a 54 year old adult.